Newly diagnosed

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Hello, I have just been diagnosed with breast cancer. Im 35 with 2

preschool age children and no idea how on earth we are meant to navigate this. I am about to have surgery and then chemo, it’s even more bizarre because I feel so well and normal! Not sure what I’m looking for here, just anyone else in the same position and how you got through it with such young kids? X 

  • 1 and 4, gosh that’s tough going. But one of the things I have found with my daughter is having/wanting to get out and about with her. There have been times (especially over Christmas half term) where she’s wanted to do something and I’ve really not wanted to but have done it (albeit very briefly at times) and it’s actually always made me feel a little better.

    It’s amazing how sometimes our Mama Brar just kicks in - but don’t beat yourself up when it doesn’t! There have been times when I’ve had to tell my very talkative daughter to just zip it!

    My treatment has been fairly kind to me up to this point it had treatment 5/8 today so I feel like I’m getting there. Please feel free to ask any questions and if I can be of any help I’ll try xxx

  • I apologise for my typos. I think it’s a mixture of autocorrect, my fingers not working correctly and quite possibly a rather large dose of steroids today xxx

  • You’re welcome, I’m pleased you found the book helpful. I had my initial oncology appointment today which was an hour and half an hour long! I had many questions and concerns! The oncologist was very patient and listened and responded with great compassion. In the end I agreed to 15 days of radiotherapy and they will also do the booster dose at the same time. I also have to take Tamoxifen for 5 year which I’m absolutely terrified about given the side effects. To address some of  my concerns he has referred me to see gynaecologist for baseline checks, referred me to a dietitian. Oh and I will have yearly mammograms as well. Whilst terrified, I’m ready to get on with it.

    I hope you are feeling a lot better now that you’ve spoken to your kids? Best wishes