New to the group - breast cancer

Hi Carmilla81 welcome to the forum and I so very sorry to hear what is happening for you. However I want you to put the why me and what have I done that you are asking yourself completely out of your head because there is no rhyme nor reason as to who gets Breast Cancer.

Whatever happens for you treatment wise we have all been there differently maybe but someone will have been through the same as you that's for sure. And whats more you will get through this and we will be with you every step of the way.

Ive inserted a  link to the breast cancer forum which if you click will take you straight to this and then you can chat away and get the support you need to get you through this.

Breast Cancer forums.

Meanwhile Im sending some huge big hugs your way.xxxx

Hi Granny59, 

thank you very much for your kind words! The most amazing this here is to get help and support from people that know exactly what you are going through, they are walking the same path and will know exactly how you feel. And I hope, with time, I will be able to help and support someone else on this journey.

You are absolutely right, it is a rollercoaster, but with family, friends and this amazing community I am sure we all don't feel alone and will go through this together!

Sending you big hugs xx

Hello Carmilla81, im also newly diagnosed grade 1 invasive ductal carcinoma a month ago and like you scared of chemo. As this post is 3 months just want to ask how are you? X

Hello Jane34,

I am really sorry to hear that you are going through this so unwanted journey.

I am doing well, thank you for asking! I hope my experience can answers some qs you might have :)

I underwent surgery a month ago and I did a mastectomy...the MRI showed a very small second site that looked like the lump confirmed to be cancerous.

The surgery went really well...it is much scarier to think about it then actually going through it, but I was terrified the days before it. The recovery was slow, but steady, very few hiccups. Now, I am just trying to sort out some cording.

Luckily they confirmed that it was HER2 negative, so I won’t need chemo. I am about to start the hormonal treatment, tamoxifen +triptorelin. I am dreading it and its side effects, but also feel very lucky we have nowadays so many treatment options.

I was really scared at the beginning, but I can tell you that once I started going through the process I felt calmer and gained an incredible strength.

Also, I want to reassure you, this is an amazing community and you will find a lot of support and answers here. Wherever your journey will take you, there will be people here who will have gone through a similar situation and will be able to offer advice/support and friendship.

There is a famous quote that I love and that, weirdly, made a huge difference for me, it really boosted my strength. It says “Fate whispers to the warrior ‘You cannot withstand the storm’, and the warrior whispers back ‘I am the storm.’”

I hope it can inspire you too. Just believe in it, stay always positive and please, feel free to contact me anytime if you have questions/doubts or just want to talk.

Sorry for the long post!

Wishing you all the best and sending you lots of love x

Hello Carmilla81, thank you for replying. I am still awaiting date of surgery and depending on histology reports whether I need chemo.

Im also 34 yo and like you before kept asking myself what I did wrong..? Never smoke, never drink, always on my feet as i work full time.. 

Im glad that you are doing much better now, your kind words has given me lots of reassurance. 

I am just so terrified thinking about chemo :( 

At the moment they put me on tamoxifen as the surgery is delayed due to covid, i have ER positive and HER2 negative.  

There is just a lot of things going through my mind and find a lot of support from here.

That quote is lovely and brought tears to my eyes... thank you and yes, we can do this xxx 

Sending lots of love back to you xxx