My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

Missing my wonderful, courageous husband too. Sadly he lost his battle 15th April 2010 only 17 weeks ago, it seems a life time ago some days.  I feel my world has caved in and the sadness of not having Tom here with me is undescribable.

Thoughts and wishes to you all

Maria

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Morning all and welcome Maria , i've just read your profile hun and so so sorry . Drop in on us when ever you need as we're all here to support each other

. Rosemary , that really is perfect . How many weeks is it now ? .

 Well i'm off to the hair dresses soon and then i'll be waiting to get ready to go and see my lovely penguins in Manchester , no still not decided what i'm wearing Helen , but the weather looks pretty miserable . Any way have a good weekend everybody Hugs to all

 xx Lynne xxx

Morning everyone

Hi Maria, do come and join us xxx So sorry you need to be here xx

Lynne I dont know what to wear either lol. Got my white trousers out but maybe not a good idea today!!! See you soon x

Hope everyone else has a good Saturday whatever you re up to

Helen xxx

Have a good time in manchester, penguins.   raining here - yuk.

Maria, so sorry to hear your news - as Lynne says, please pop in whenever you like and get the wonderful support on offer. rant, rave, whatever - we will understand.

sue xx

Just a quick one again (sorry) but sending you love and a welcome Maria, stay with us through the bad and believe it or not the good, there will be some good days again promise xxxx

Lynne don't ask weeks!  I'm just managing months!!! And there's only 8 of them!!!!!!  Have a wonderful time in Manchester you lot will raise a glass or three for you this evening xxxx

Sue hopefully you are feeling a little easier today, bruising coming out nicely is it?  How is the foot/ankle? 

Judi hope you woke up again, glad the photo didn't send as it really wasn't flattering, not good on a mobile phone in the rain and pointing at ourselves, bad angle!  Need your hat lady I think and does she collect hats for her collection?  I have a beautiful one but it really isn't me, wish it was but that's hats isn't it? xxxxx

See you later off to see mum and dad today xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hi everyone.  Rosemary I hope the visit with your mum & dad is nice today.  The peom is absolutely lovely.  8 months is plenty of time - you'll see.

Welcome to our little group Maria & Doreen.  I hope you both feel you can post here and benefit from the support we have with each other.  Doreen I am sure that Macmillan nurses could help Steve with some more effective pain control although I know it must be hard for you if Steve finds it diffucult to communicate about his illness.  Lots of love to you both and to your family xxx and thank you for your kind words of encouragement.

Manda, Lynne & Helen - have a great day in Manchester today.  It's been raining here today but I am sure that won't stop you having fun.

Bren that is lovely that you dreamed of Dan.  I live in hope but nothing so far.  Stu dreams about his dad a lot - mostly he is talking tohimon the phone and Toni dreams about him as well - they go for meals together.

Patricia what a coincidence that you were probably in IKEA when I was.  I am probably going back again next Wednesday.  Declan was at tropical World 2 weeks ago with his summer school - he really enjoyed it.

Sue I missed your fall so I hope you are okay today and not too still or bruised.  Don't you just feel so silly when that happens?!

Judi sounds like a plan toput your stuff in storage while you get the new place ready.  With your SD staying your house sounds a bit like mine had been for 6 weeks now - I can't believe it has been that long since B & D moved in but we are half way there now.  I managed to get her lawn at the old house mowed before it rained today but this trip seems quite relaxing for me this time as I am leaving it up to Becky to pack and load the van with whatever she wants to take on this trip.

In fact this trip is so relaxed I think we are about to nip out for some lunch!  have a good weekend everyone.  Take care.  Ailsa xxx

Maria, so sorry to hear of your loss. I hope you can find some comfort here. It is indescribable how we all find ourselves in this position and the wealth of emotions we go through as a result. I expect you are at the moment in the thick of all the endless papertrail which ensues following such a tgragic loss.  It seems endless doesn't it with people forever asking for  cerificates, forms to be filled in, letters going back and forth, telephone calls to people who don't really listen to what you are saying. Try to keep your cool and rememeber that your lovely husband will be right there with you willing you to get through it all. It sounds like you have a lovely family so I hope you have lots of support there. It is not always easy though to talk about how you truly feel with your family and that is why we all find this site so very useful and have made some lovely new friends in the process. You can say exactly how you feel without fear of upsetting your family. As you will see from the posts here wea are at varying stages along this epic journey but however far we have travelled we still have our ups and downs but hopefully as time goes on the ups outweigh the downs. Take care of yourself Maria and you will eventually one day realise that you are crying a little less and are allowing yourself to have some happy days.

Love and angel hugs x x x patricia x x x

Ailsa, such a shame we didn't meet when you were at Ikea. I hope your trip was as relaxing as you said.

Penguins I hope you had a lovely day in Manchester. I would have loved to meet with you but spent most of the day trying to sleep aftert a night shift.  Oh well, maybe next time.

Sue, how are you? I hope your foot is recovering. Rosemary, you will get everything done for the wedding and then you will wonder how on earth you did it.  I am sure you will find the right hat eventually (or have I misunderstood that one?) Judi, make sure you don't store away anything you really need to keep with you. That would be what I would probably do lol. Fiona, how are things with you? Is dad doing any better? Hope you are enjoying your grandson and Bud. It sounds like Bud keeps you busy. Gayle are you back yet? I hope your holiday has helped you to slow down a bit.  Missing you Lesley, come back soon. Dave I hope life is treating you fairly well.

I hope you all manage to have the best day you can.

Love and angel hugs x x x Patricia x x x

Just a quick 'hello' - thanks for making me welcome yesterday in Manchester, I thoroughly enjoyed myself and am looking forward to future meets.

I recognise so many names on here from posting on Mac for 4 years and am so sorry this is where our journey takes us.  I wish I'd realised this thread was here and so supportive long before now.

Take care everyone,speak soon x

welcome, mandy

sorry we've had to meet this way, but welcome to the thread.   i didn't make it to Manchester yesterday, as i'm one of the few southerners on the thread!!    Am determined to get to a meet sooner or later, - aiming for the london one in October, so hopefully will meet the penguins there.

sue xx