My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

Evening everyone xxx

Judi you had me laughing!!!  We are a soap opera!!! All with our different characters to play lol!! Like Lynne said I can`t wait to meet everyone, don`t know if we`re a bit mad doing it but hey, we`re worth it!

Fiona I am so sorry to hear about Scooby, you must be devastated. No words can help but thinking of you xxx

Lynne, good news at last xxx Patricia enjoy your cosy lounge in this awful weather and well done on your pedalling!!!

Think maybe Kaz is still celebrating after passing her exams, lets hope so!!xx

Well I`m going to have the neighbours talking at the weekend!!! I`m going out to meet our ex landlord and landlady (of our local who Paul  was very friendly with) on Saturday. They moved away from the pub trade due to ill health, so going for a few drinks with them, a few towns away. But I`m going with my neighbour (again who is a friend of mine and Paul`s from our local) but he`s a he!!! I`ve been worried what people will think but I thought hang on a minute, we`re both adults here, all been friends for a long time and I`ve got nothing else planned this weekend and would love to catch up with old friends. So hey... I`m going!!!

What do you think girls? Am I naive, can I go as a friend?? Some people don`t think so, but surely I know the situation best??? Answers on a postcard!!

Helen xxx

helen - you go for it.   Friends like that are friends forever.

Sue x

Helen hun , I think that due to the postal strike we can't answer on a postcard so here's my answer, don't you even hesitate for one minute.  Friends and friends and I think it is lovely that you have something planned this weekend.  And as you said, you know the situation, so don't give it a second thought. 

Patricia, glad you have got your room cosy, but really sorry that you have had a bad day.  It is the weirdest thing isn't it, how you can go from coping to despair without anything specific triggering it off.  I am glad that I made you smile, I was a bit worried after I had posted that it was a bit cheeky. Now remember, we are not working towards at yellow jumper at the Tour de France, just wee peddle every now and then suits us fine.

Nothing on the telly tonight, boo hiss - just glad I have a book to read.  Oh, I know, I wanted to say thank you Lynne, a few days ago (okay maybe weeks) you put up you were going to watch Benidorm, I saw it for the first time the other night because of that and thought it was great.

Love to all - I may be back if my  book is no good - Having a bit of a Winnie the Pooh Day - "I am a bear of very little brain, and long words bother me"!!

Judi xx

Thanks for your replies xxx

Nothing on tele!!! Liverpool are playing, how very dare you !!!!!

Helen xxx

Hallo,

My husband died on the 23rd October 10 months since being diagnosed with a brain tumour or several actually as it turned out to be.

I feel completely desolate, can't really take it in. We have been married for 37 years and I totally adored him as did our two boys. Just can't imagine life without him.

Jean x

Dear Jean, welcome to the thread. I am so very sorry to hear of your deep sadness and sorrow. The people on here will help to carry you through the dark days ahead. We support and help one another when we are down but also have a good laugh along the way. 

I hope that the minefield of paperwork is not overwhelming you.

Love and angel hugs x x Patricia x x

Hi Jean, I am so sorry too xxx We have all been there and have found great comfort in this thread. Love to you and your sons xxx

Helen xxx

Helen, of course you should go out with your friends. No-one has any right to judge you for what you do. Anyway, it is quite possible to have a platonic relationship no matter what anyone else thinks or says.

Judi, I hope you enjoy your book. What do you like to read?  Oh and of course I don't think you were being cheeky with your earlier comments. It is all good fun isn't it.

Love and angel hugs x x Patricia x x

Hi Jean

So sorry to hear about Paul, and send you loads of hugs.  I would second what Helen and Patricia have said about this site.  I 'found' these ladies a couple of months ago and they have done me more good than anything else this last year.  Through bad days and even worse days there is someone here that will send you good thoughts and care and support.  Advice at times or just somewhere to throw that random question, or anger or sadness.

Keep in touch, and remember - one day at a time, at your own pace.

Judi xx

Hi Patricia (and Helen!)

I read just about anything -  light 'chick lit', Maeve Binchy,Joanna Trollope,  thrillers, Quentin Jardine, John Grisham (but not really enjoyed his last couple) Ha..... Corben, am reading one (very well written) at the moment about the Berlin Wall.

But obvious from my last post re nothing on tv - I don't read Liverpool FC annuals!!! lol

Judi xx