My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

The window looks stunning Ailsa.......

Love and (((hugs)))

Dot xxxxxxxxxx

Lynne, that was so funny it made me laugh out loud (a rare occurance these days). Thank you.

Ailsa, the window looks stunning. I wish you many happy years to enjoy it. Must catch up soon x x

Yesterday I met my grand daughter for the first time. So emotional. Unfortunately I upset my son when we were talking about his dad. (He should have been with us to enjopy this precious new life). She is such a cutie and has already stolen our hearts and got us under her spell.

Rosemary, I hope you are managing to keep yourself afloat. (here is a lifebuoy just in case). Thinking of you and your family.

Love and angel hugs x x x Patricia x x x

Glad i've managed to raise a smile from a few of you , i loved it and couldn't resist copying it for our "yorkshire lasses " 

 Have we got pics of the baby yet Patricia xxx

Waiting for the parents to post pics first Lynne. Don't want to upset anyone. I am careful not to be the first to put any pics of family on internet. (cowardly I know).

Love and angel hugs x x x Patricia x x x

Rosemary so sorry to hear about your FIL xxxx big hugs to you all ((())))

Just a quick note as I haven't posted in a couple of days.

Ailsa- the window is beautiful, what a beautiful idea. Is it internal or in an external wall? can't quite tell in the picture, but i am sure it looks brilliant with the sun shining through from the back.

lynne - I like your joke about yorkshire lasses, I may live in leicester these days but I am yorkshire born and bred and all my family still live there. However Mark was also a Yorkshire man so he knew exactly what he was letting himself in for.

Patricia- I am so glad you finally got to see your granddaughter. It would be lovely to see a picci, but i know what you mean about not posting first, it feels like it should be the parents perogative.

Rosemary- Huge Hugs to you and your family.

I am having a rough couple of days, hormones are playing up, I wish it wasn't that because it seems like its an excuse and that if it wasn't that i would be ok. Not true, but it makes it so much harder to cope.

enough of that

Take care all, hugs and balieys all round

Becky

Have been having a wobbly day today.  Usually go to see a friend on Tuesday but she has come down with the virus that is sweeping everywhere.  Then my heating is having a wobbly too.  I had to write to the hospital about Martin's quality of care in our local hospital.  I actually sent it to PALS and they sent it on as a formal complaint.  I received a reply back from the hospital today and reading it through brough everything home to me again.  All the days of his illness.  I have since been in meltdown all day.  Have not been able to stop crying, and I thought I was getting on OK.  But all the things that bring it back.  Such a rollercoaster life.

I have actually stopped crying now, don't think there are any left, but I am feeling so lonely today.  I am surrounded by friends and family but am feeling lonely.  I really am lonely for my old life I suppose.  Oh dear here come the tears again.

Sorry for the post, but just thought it might help for me to put it in writing.

When will it ever end xx

Dear Pam

I have no words - so just sending you lots of comforting (((hugs)))...........

Love and more (((hugs)))

Dot xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Dear Pam, I really feel for you. I know how it is when plans are cancelled and something unexpected happens. I can cope when everything is going according to plan but the minute things go off course, I am struggling, even with the smallest problems. It is horrible when things like your heating go wrong, and without our husbands to share it with it is so hard. Today I had to ring the tax office as I have got Jacks self assesment form and he always dealt with that kind of thing. Wish I could help but i am thinking of you and sending hugs

Clare x

Hi all,

Sorting out problems on your own is a steep learning curve.  So far I have had to deal with heating problems, a blocked loo and leaking water stop cock.  Those were hard enough, but today i had an appointment at the bank.  Armed with death certificate and two proofs of idenity, I thought it would be simple to change our joint account to a sole  account for me.  Not so.  Although i can still access accounts in our joint names, nothing can be done until the bank has seen probate and a certified copy of Gary's will.

It seems the branch can do nothing everything is done at the "Bereavement centre in Edinborugh.  I think i may be in for a long wait.

On a better note,I have managed to set up a new printer for my lap top,  Have gone wifi as i was getting fed up with all the trailing wires.  I seem to have printed off so many letters already, it makes sense to have the convenience of wire free.

Tomorow as they say is another day.  Hope you are all ding as well as possible, tak care,

Daffie xxx