My husband - Chris - died on the 2nd May 2009 because he had anal cancer. He knew he was going and we spoke about lots and lots of things before he died. That is why I am just not prepared for the huge amount of guilt I feel now. I feel guilty that the world hasn't stopped turning round even though he has died. I feel like everything should stop as a mark of respect. I also feel very guilty that he had to be so ill he had to die. What a cruel cruel thing it is to make someone so ill their body just stops working. I wasn't ready for him to go. I really really hope these are normal feelings because I must hang on to my sanity for the sake of my 3 children. I have never known sadness like I feel right now. I can't believe that I will not hear his voice or feel his touch again. We were married for almost 32 years and I have known Chris for 34 years - since I was 16. What happens now? Ailsa
Dear Judi, Love the penguin story may need to join you all over christmas.
My love and ((((((HUGS))))) to all that post on here.
Quill xxxxx
Lynne so sorry to hear your sad news xxx
Like you I`ve gone to funerals that I knew Paul would have wanted to go to. Gives you a chance to have a good cry xxx
You`re doomed not to get your shopping done though aren`t you?
I am at this present minute........wait for it..........writing Christmas cards!!!! Please don`t faint, better carry on with it while Im in the flow
Helen xxx
Hi Helen and Quill , thanks for good wishes . Well i always knew i was always going to give the xmas cards a miss , calendars it is then >> . I am furiouly wrapping up the few things i have got the "little kids" their easy arn't they , its the big ones that i'm struggling with . Wed morning i'm going to town and i'm not coming back untill i've got my arms full . I'm just waiting for my neice to get back to me about the trains , her boyfriend works on them so i'm hoping there going to tell me the best way to book tickets for the cheapest . I am ok my friends but like you say its chance to have a good cry , not that i need an excuse xx . Sometimes i feel that somebody is stood behind me on the ledge and keeps prodding at me , but i'm not going off the end , how can i with all you holding on to me , and i will keep hold of you all xxxxx
Now make me wrap the rest of pressies up xxxxxx
Go and wrap your pressies xxx
You are certainly not going off the ledge, we won`t let you!!!
Helen xx
Cards written, well most of them. I will buy some stamps tomorrow
Helenx
Getting there then , well done you 2 xxxxx
Hello ladies,
Just wanted to post to let you know that I am still around but in a bit of a bad place too at the moment and finding stuff hard to talk about. I am listening to you all and thinking of you all especially Lynne, Patricia and Fiona and of course all you others. Your posts are beautiful Judi and made me cry too. I am being serious but I really think you should train as a counseller. You have a natural gift of saying the right thing and you should use it to help others.
Gayle xx
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