My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

Dear everyone,

Thank you all so much for your love and concern today.  

i visited the cemetery this morning on the way to church, and then Alice and ~I went to Sarah and jason's for lunch. (number one offspring and partner, with two little girls aged 9 and 6.) They cooked a fab 3-course meal - all homemade, including a glorious parsnip soup. most impressed! We've not long got home, fed the beasts and am trying to gird up my loins to tackle the ironing - oh joy!

yvonne, I cannot begin to tell you how thrilled I am to see you posting here; PLEASE move in with us on this thread if you feel that you would like to. we all support each other in every possible way, and even have a laugh along the way, which is something we thought impossible a little while ago.

helen, hun, how did today go? I've been thinking of you, and said a quickie for you at church this morning. I hope that you'll find comfort in having a special place where you can visit Paul.  are you having a bench? After all, we are Benches'R us; Lynne and Ailsa are full of helpful ideas!!! However, if Lynne mentions balloons, just nod politely and move away......................(love you really, L!)

Thanks again, all you lovely people.

sue xx

Dear Sue - I'm so pleased that you had a lovely day - if tinged with sadness.  You have a wonderful family who care and share with you...............it must be in the genes!!!! xx

Helen - I hope your day went as well as it could - given the weather and all else?? xx

Yvonne - lovely to see you here.............as Sue says there's a lot of support here and my silliness usually leads to everyone smiling.xx

Ailsa - how was the wedding?  I hope you had a good time - and not too much rain??  xx

Oh! sorry - my brain has now shut down - can't remember who else is doing what!!!!!  So now I will bow out disgracefully (as usual) and leave love and many ((((((((bug higs)))))))))) for you all  Dot xxxxxxxxxxx

Evening all , what lovely posts there has been today , all the flowers have been lovely and the last one from you Sue is excellent as usual . I've been thinking about you both today , i have been a little "under the weather " , all self inflicted , i should no better . What i didn't mention is at the comp last night my friends daiughter got through and then my friend decided to sing at the last min and she got through too , her little son is already through so it will be a real family affair , cant wait for the 19th . I'm gladyou've got through the day ok , did your lamp come ? Hope Helen has been ok too , i ordered sun for her at 12 oclock , its not really stopped raining here all day . Hi Yvonne yes please come and join us , these ladies are a god send , even Sue with her dry sense of humour , Balloons indeed , i'm never going to live that one down am i ? Hi Dottee , hope Alan is feeling a little better now , hope the show is fantastic next weekend , it will be a lovely break for you . Hope you didn't get blown away whilst sorting the horses out Esme lol. Hope everybody else id doing ok , cant wait to see pics of the new arrival , oh well better get these clothes put away , i am really traveling light this time , so shoudn't take long ,. I'll be hanging about the laptop till at least 2 in the morning when i get picked up , so i'll speak to you all again before i go .

Lynne xxxxxxx

Lynne, I hope you have the best time. x x x

we are quite a few now so I will just say I hopr that you all have a good day tomorrow x x

Thanks Patricia , i'll miss you all tho, last time i was away i went on the internet on my phone but it cost a fortune so i probably wont do it this time . You never know the hotel might have internet and then i can check in on you all .

take care

Lynnexxxxxxxxxxx 

just have a great time - we'll all be here when you get back, as will the bench.

take care, lynne - avoid ladders, banana skins and hot air hand dryers at all costs.

sue xx

Ha HA Thanks Sue i wll try my hardest to stay out of bother lol XXXXXXXXXX

Evening everyone

Glad your day was ok Sue xxx Love all the photos and flowers xxx

Lynne, it stopped raining for us, must have been thanks to you xxx 12 0 clock it stopped! It all went well, Liam did us proud and carried Paul`s casket and buried it. His mum and I both placed a red rose with him before sprinkling the earth. Lovely words and prayers and plenty of tears but feel we have completed now xxx

We then went for a carvery, then went back to Paul`s special place by which time his stone had been laid and we arranged our flowers. Will put photo s on facebook tomorrow xxx Been to our local for a couple, kids came too which was nice.

Lynne hope you have a great holiday. Ailsa are you home yet?

Speak tomorrow

Helen xxx

Helen, have been thinking of you all day... so glad it all went well. The rain stopped here just before 12 and I was hoping it had for you too... Here's hoping that the rest of your week goes as smoothly for you all.

Hope everyone has had an OK weekend xx

dear helen

Well done.

sue xx