My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

Morning everyone

Fiona, `CONGRATULATIONS`. lovely, lovely news xxx It makes a change to have some good news xxxxx

Ailsa your bench is lovely and so pleased it`s brought some excitement!!!

Sue have a good day in Bath xx

Lynne I feel exactly the same as you, my real friends know exactly how I feel and Paul would want me to be enjoying myself but did feel guilty when I first saw people I knew last night and I was dancing. Felt I shouldn`t be?? Mad eh?? But yes I had a good boogie!!

Eeew, got to tell you this, as my friend and I were sat having a drink a `lady` (not quite the right word for her!!!) walked into the bar.was sick in the corner, wiped her mouth with her hand and carried on through to another bar. Nice!!! She wasn`t that young either. My friend pointed it out to the bar staff to clean up, poor things.

Nat had a good night with her friends too.

I`m off to the hairdressers soon then a quiet day and tv tonight. Speak later

Helen xxx

Morning Dave

Must have posted at same time, yes I feel fine thanks. No hangover!!!

Helen xxx

Congratulations Granny,

I have an 11 month granddaughter, she is such a joy. Derek would be very happy that you have something to smile about again.

Enjoy!  

Lots of Love, Yvonne xxx

Dave, welcome to the thread. I hope that you and George feel better soon.

Helen, don't let people's silly attitude stop you from going out and enjoying yourself. You have every right to do so. You are not expected to sit and weep and wail in widows weeds for the rest of your life. Try to rise above their silly and inane comments. I suspect it is just because it makes them feel better.

Sue thinking about you this weekend with love and emotional support. I hope the trip to Bath is enjoyable.

Fiona, how lovely. A tiny new grandson to spoil a little and love a lot. "Ten little fingers, ten tiny toes, two cherry red lips and a cute button nose".  I heard that somewhere a long time ago.  So pleased to hear that everything went well and that Kim and Charlie are doing well. Congratulations Granny Fiona. I bet you cried tears of bittersweet gladness for his safe arrival. My niece believes that Ray met her son before she did as he died just over three months before the baby arrived. So maybe that is true for Derek too.

Lynne, I hope you have that packing done. I know you will miss your lovely bench but as Sue says, it will not fit into your case lol.

Ailsa, I hope the weather holds up for the photoshoot at the wedding. Have a lovely time.

Dot, how are you and Alan?

Esme, Judi, Gayle you are very quiet. Are you all ok??

Manda, Yvonne hi hope you are ok.

I have been making a cursory effort with the shopping and have bought a few things for the extended family.(one household sorted).  Nothing for my own yet though but that is not unusual as my son's birthday is 9th December and I have never been able to shop for their Christmas gifts until after that point.  Not that interested but have to make some sort of effort don't I?

Love and angel hugs x x Patricia x x

Afternoon

It gets you when you`re not expecting it doesn`t it??? Just been to the florist to choose some  flowers to put on Paul`s stone tomorrow. Looked at the red roses and burst into tears!!! His funeral flowers were mainly red roses xx The lady in the florist was lovely but felt so daft, I couldn`t get my words out. She asked who it was for and how long since he died. So I explained about burying the ashes tomorrow. Oh well I have got some lovey red roses and gypshopheilia to put on it, didn`t buy much as his mum also wants to put some on and these vases aren`t big are they? Oh well, and Liverpool drew too. Not good!!!

It`s wet and horrible here, think I`ll do some ironing. Exciting xx

Helen xxx

Hi all

Glad you had a good night out Helen. I will be thinking of you tomorrow, hope all goes as well as can be expected.

Isn't the weather awful, dark, windy and lashing down and it's only 3pm.

kind thoughts to everyone.  Lesley x

Aww Helen, been there done that and you feel so useless don't you, but you aren't - big hug and another big hug to keep you strong tomorrow,hope it goes well for you.  Tough about Liverpool, but hey at least it was a draw and not a loss

Congratulations Fiona!  Glad all is well with the new arrival, give him a cuddle for me,haven't held we weeny baby in ages.

Welcome Dave, hope you and your sons feel better soon, bugs are horrible at the moment, my Sam keeps getting them.  Stick with us there's always a hug (or a bug hig) going spare, you're doing great and your Nic would be proud of you.  Love to you xxxx

Oh bother, getting bombarded here, will come back later or tomorrow, love to everyone take care in this horrid weather xxxxx

Hi Everyone. What an awful day... suits how I feel though.

Sorry to hear that George is poorly Dave - hope you are all on the mend soon. Fiona - Congratulations and much love to you all on the safe arrival of little Charlie, Hope that your plans help you to get through your six month Sue, Ailsa - the bench is lovely! and Lynne, I can't believe the Halifax!

Helen, what an a**e you had to deal with last night - what on earth goes on in people's heads I will never understand... I hope that all goes well tomorrow, and with Nat's birthday, and with everything else you have going on over the next few days. I can understand what you mean abour going onto auto made when the kids are upset - there is nothing like worrying for them to take your mind away from your own feelings! Hayley and I had plenty of tears yesterday, and it hit us like a brick wall when Miles wasn't there for our 'birthday morning routine'. I'll be thinking of you...

Sorry to everyone I have missed, my brain is in a bit of a fug... Have been feeling pretty low today - six weeks gone now. It's all still so raw and way to early to see any light at the end of the tunnel, yet somehow we keep getting through the days. Have cried myself into an awful headache today... don't think the weather helps...

Take care all,

Manda xx

Ok i've broke a rule i'm posting under the influence of alcohol , I wanted to say how pleased i am that the new baby has arrived safely , how pleased you must be Fiona , i will wet the babys head for you ,i cant wait for the pics of baby  and proud granny xxxx

I can imagine how you felt Helen when you went for the flowers , like you say it hits you when you dont expect it .. The image of the "lady "made me laugh , a bit like a few ladies who live round here lol xx,

Hi Dave hope you and the boys are feeling better now xx

I am going out again , just after i got in and a friend text me and asked  me to go and see her daughter sing , she won chestefield gots talent last week so i've got to go and see her , it would be rude not to , so i will try and get my head together , and get ready and go and drink some more , i will have a lttle drink for Charlie Dereck , and Sue and Helen who have tough days tommorow . for now i'll sign out .

Take care

Lynne xxxxxxxxx

Dear Lynne

Hope this might help later

Sue xx