My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

Evening everyone and Sharon. Please come and join us and hope we can support you as much as everyone helps each one of us xxxxx

I`m a bit flat this week!!! Thought I was doing too well last week... I`m lonely, I miss Paul, feel like I`m forcing myself through each day....for what??? To come home and sit here on my own again!!!! I know I`ve got great friends and my son and daughter but at the end of the day they`ve all got their own lives. Trying to give myself a kick today and think maybe I could join a group but what??? Suggestions on a postcard and preferably something that under 70`s would want to do!!! Nothing against over 70`s lol!!!!!

Sorry, moan over. I had a quiet weekend and I think I`m feeling it. Got a girls night in planned at a friends on Friday!!

How`s everyone else

Helen xxx

it's OK , Helen, I know how you feel. Getting through each day seems to be what it's about at the moment, and there has to be something more doesn't there? 

I go to a pub quiz every week, and I'm going to start line dancing shortly; but i find that by the time i get in from work I'm so knackered that it's a real effort to do anything!  hang on inthere, we'll get there!

sue x

Hi Sue

Yeah there must be more to look forward to rather than just getting through the day but seems unlikely at the moment! I see friends on a Wednesday usually but like you say in the week I am so exhausted after work it is an effort (my 2 friends both work in schools too so often we text to say it`s an early night tonight!) We used to do a pub quiz, that was fun! Mother in law suggested line dancing earlier. Bit of am dram maybe?? Like you say we`ll get there I suppose xxx

Helen xx

Hi Helen , i ask myself those same questions everyday what is the point ? i'm sure we'll get an answer one day but not yet , i'm so gratefull for my kids and grandkids but there not here in the week , if i dont have anything planned for the weekend i go mental ., glad you got your girlie night friday , i have a wedding reception sat night and i do want to go but i know i'll be lost when i get there .Its at the same place where  we should have had our wedding reception but 10 days before we got married it flooded , yeah i lead an exciting life , that was fun trying to switch everything in 10 days  , then you wonder why i'm a bit looney lol . Hope you feel better soon Helen , i miss Gordon so much it hurts so i know how you feel hun .. My mum loved line dancing Sue , and yes any advice on any groups i'll be interested too , i'm fed up with going in Tesco at night it cost me to much .

Lynne xxxx

Know what you mean about Tesco, Lynne!!!!

How many bunches of bananas can you buy?

not that many lolxxx

Yeehaa!! Sue................Line dancing?  Good on yer!!!  But will you have enough energy to chat and slap your thigh at the same time????  (only teasing)  I'm pleased to see that you're getting out a little...........

We are planning a few days away in a couple of weeks.  My brother lives in Hereford so we're off to visit him......... It's lovely at this time of year..........well actually at any time of year!!!!  Spring for the blossom.........summer for the soft fruit.........autumn - for the apples......... and winter.............long walks in the snow.............Oh!! lordy!!! I sound like a travel brochure!!!!!  I hope to do a couple of days serious walking around the Brecon Beacons and maybe Symmonds Yat.......... I'll try not to fall over (or off) anything!!!  I always come back with a car full of fruit and veg from the farm shops...........

And on that very yummy thought I'm sending you lots of (((((((((((((BIG HUGS)))))))))))))) to comfort you all tonight

Dot xxxxxxxxxxx

Thanks Ladies, it helps to know I`m not the only feeling like this. ((((()))))

Helen xxx

Hi, dot

I can yee hah with the best (or worst!!) of them!

   having said that, I haven't gone to my pub quiz tonight as my head is thumping , throat sore and the first cold of the school year is kicking in. so I've had a bath, taken some pills and am in bed with my  laptop feeling sorry for myself! Oh, the joys of working with 3 year olds who are not averse to sharing their bodily fluids!!!!

Hereford is fab, and I love Symond's Yat. Are you going white water whatever-ing?   dare you!  we used to go there quite often as it's not that far over the bridge and is such a beautiful spot- i am green with envy!

hope alan is behaving himself with his meds.

sue x

Hi All,

Sharon i send hugs to you and i am thinking of you at this sad time, keep posting. Deb's hope work went ok i know it' s hard but gives you something else to think about. Hope everyone else ok tonight. My days are up and down still tears, Lynne hope you enjoy your holiday.  Had Kim for tea tonight her husband away in a lorry for a couple of day , so thats passed some of the night for me this i hate being on my own. Helen hope your new car doing ok . Well think i will have a cup of tea and then bed,speak soon.

Take Care

Fiona xxxxxxxxxxxx