Does anyone else find that the mornings are the hardest part of the day?
I haven't been able to sleep in our bed since my wife passed 4 weeks ago, i have been sleeping downstairs. I wake up and immediately have a churning in my stomach and a sense of anxiety. It's a real struggle to get up.
Once I get up and out for a walk, it does ease a little, but know coming into autumn/winter it will be alot more difficult to get out due to the weather.
Life just sucks!
Hello!
Its not the sleeping bit that bothers me I'm ok with that now- I think! In the beginning my sleep patterns were all over the place but I'm sure I've got myself into a routine. Its the actual getting out of bed in the mornings. Even 3 years in and I still sometimes dread getting up in the mornings just to face virtually nothing. I have a couple of days I now go and look after my little granddaughters as my son and daughter in law work different shifts and they cross over sometimes so that gets me up early but its the inbetween, and not knowing what to do with yourself and as you say JP with the darker nights coming in that will make it worse and the days more shorter am starting to feel it now with all the kids back at school now there seems to be less people around and its usually the autumn/winter months you don't see many people with the longer nights and shorter days. I used to like this time of year it was the signal that Christmas was getting nearer and Jay and I would just cosy up in our PJs and watch rubbish TV at night but now the shorter days and longer nights for me just emphasise more of how much you are on your own and as you say too if the weather is bad you don't want to go out anywhere. So many things you miss being a widow.
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