Thank god the weekend is over

Hi packmc, I really struggle with weekends and evenings too. I dont drive, nowhere to go, buses few and far between and people understandable are with their families. I sppend most of them alone. 

I am sorry your partner didnt leave a will, that must be so hard especially if his family dont acknowledge your place in his life. Is your daughter his as she would inherit? I am sure you will have looked into any benefits you might be entitled to.

Hugs to you as another week begins. 

Hi Packmc

Weekends are the hardest and I too take solace in the tv, I have just started to give myself permission to go out socially, I find it so tough but am forcing myself instead of cancelling all plans like I have done up to now. Hubby died in October.

I have also struggled financially as I gave my job up to care for him in his last year, don’t regret it at all but didn’t think about how I’d manage when he was gone. We survived on Carers Allowance and PIP both of which stopped when he died.

I wouldn’t have managed without Bereavement Support Payment, I applied for Job Seekers but was advised to apply for ESA, which I did and have managed just as I also get Child Benefit. I have been really lucky and have managed to successfully apply for a new job which I start at the end of this month. Not sure how I am going to find it but know he would want to see me trying to get on with things.

All the info you need should be available at https://www.gov.uk/browse/benefits/bereavement

I also contacted Citizens Advice who were really helpful.

No-one tells you about the added stress of money worries if plans were not in place.

X

Hi Packmc

Think we can all get what you wrote think we've all been there done it n got the T shirt as they say. Yes weekends just drag don't they for me feels like there is no weekends now and all the days just morph together as they did during covid- at least with covid I had someone to go through it with as he was still here. I get the thing with the bills and that is so right when you lose a partner/spouse part of the income goes with them. i lost all Jay's (my late husband) benefits his carer allowance attendance allowance and his state pension. I had a few insurance polices and some savings but they are dwindling fast but I'm just about managing just have to `cut the cloth to suit` as my dad used to say. I have no mortgage that was paid off a good few years ago so at least I have a roof over my head if nothing else. Yes it was so easy just to pay the bills every month when there were two of you but it has been really starting to bite over the last while for me too. I'm a full time carer for my older sister now. She got bowel cancer not long after Jay passed just two months after he passed she has been making good progress though with her recovery as they caught her's really early. She has learning difficulties though and lives in sheltered accomodation she can live independently to an extent but I need to help her with her bills and banking and things in authority things she just can't handle take her to hospital appointments etc. TV is a good companion in a way thank goodness for Amazon Prime and Youtube when you can maybe catch a good film or watch daft videos on Youtube. I have gone back to online studying I did free courses run by a local college during covid and really enjoyed them and I have carried on with them. I had to shelve them for a while when Jay was ill though all my time obviously got taken up with that. Just keep coming here when you need its a good safe space to let of steam and have a good rant and as you may have already seen we are all a good support for each other. Sending you hugs and best wishes. Take Care. 

Vicky x