Well, my son had to go home yesterday ,so I have had my first night and day alone. When he left I cried, I had a look at all the work he has been doing over the last two weeks and I cried again as he is also grieving his dad but still is sorting all this , organising a funeral and looking after me as well. I went to bed and cried again. Today I have been alternating between pottering about the house and crying.
Reading all the messages everyone is writing is so comforting, so thank you to everyone for sharing , it really helps. Love and hugs to everyone on this horrific journey that we find ourselves on.
Hi, I an sorry for your loss. Due to distance etc I did not see any family or friends for over a week. Until I had to travel to Yorkshire for my dad's funeral. Then I had to come home and finish planning my wife's funeral. Its hard and to be honest it's still hard. You will manage and I am glad you have some support. Take care one step at time and be good to yourself.
I just thought i would let you know I am thinking about you. It is so, so, hard. Your son sounds like an amazing person. He is doing his best to support you. Crying is a good thing, as it lets the pain out. I expect you are still in shock. You must be exhausted, mentally and physically. My husband passed nine months ago from kidney cancer. I also have a son who is trying to look after his mum. We take each day as it comes, and talk about how we are feeling. Sending you hugs, Kate. Xxx
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