Lonely

Hi Footy19cat!

This is really all you can do by taking things one day at a time. We are all with you as we have all been there. Yes the lonliness can bite terrible and as you say you can be in a room full of people and still feel just so empty. Lots of little positives have happened with me too but then they are all bittersweet because your loved one is not here to share it with. I can't tell you if things will get better for you because we all grieve at different levels and in different ways. At just over 18 months from losing my husband I find that I have moved on slightly but still have dark days but just learn to go with them now and just resign to that that day/week was a write off so just have to try again. You just have to try to get up each day and put one foot in front of the other. I am sure and hope that things will get better for you. Best wishes to you moving forwards. 

Vicky x

Hi there, family and friend’s can’t really understand. They can’t touch the suffering that we are going through. We are bereft, because we can’t have what we used to have with that person. We can’t see them, touch them, talk to them, care for them, hold them. It is savage, and nobody can make it better. I did self-isolate for a while, as I needed to try and work through my feelings,.and try to rest. Your husband knew that you loved him, you did everything you could. Sending hugs. Kate. Xxx

Hi there, I totally understand how you feel. The loneliness is all consuming. My husband passed 13 weeks ago today and I feel so lonely. My family and friends try their best but it just isn’t the same. My husband was my soulmate and best friend and I feel so cheated to have lost him. None of us knew how quickly he would deteriorate and while I’m glad he is free from pain, I miss him so much. I don’t know if the rest of you feel you are just ticking of the days, existing but not really living, how can we when we have lost what was so precious. It was second time around for us as we both had been left by our first spouses. We never thought we would find love again and were so happy together.  We only had 5 short years and it just seems so cruel that this happiness was so short lived. I don’t honestly think  I’ll ever feel happiness again and that makes me feel guilty because I know my husband would want me to make the most of each and everyday. I hate feeling like this.