Moving On - Well, Some May Think

Hello WDJ

Good to see you on this again ! What a wonderful poem /text. Very moving. I feel the same way. Two and a half years later. The same as you. The "moving forward" is still not happening, but a shift certainly has. The last few months have been doing painting and roof repairs. One thing lead to another, and I have had to deal with it all myself. Plus with difficult French workmen !!! Waiting, waiting for them. Still not finished either. Have been to a therapist/ healer a few times and she has really helped. She told me recently that she saw a great improvement in me since my first visit, last year. Perhaps I have more confidence and have learnt to say NON when I feel something isn't right. Yes I now can say I am Finding Fiona. I have my sad moments of course, and I miss Barry very much, but I talk about him all the time, and hear his voice, advising me I am sure. That plus the Land rovers I see all the time . He had about 40 of them throughout his life. A real fan. 

Well take care and lovely to hear you again. 

Hugs again xx

I echo Fifinet's comments about WDJ's poem.  I still get the feeling, over 3.5 years on, that Nic will come back through the door.

Fifinet, I'm the same re moving on.  I've not really, but also think things have shifted.  I've had work done including a new conservatory which is far from perfect - leaking, bad workmanship - but I can't be bothered to sort it out, just too much brain work involved.  I too, am saying no to a lot of things that I would just have accepted before.  So now I am a moody, angry person who doesn't suffer fools who has to put a nice front on a lot of the time.  Grrrrr is my mantra these days, and a lot of muttering about things.

Nic also loved Land Rovers.  He had a 25 year old one badly in need of renovation.  I was lucky to sell it to someone who has done just that and made a lovely job of it.  

Take care.

Well, I'm still I think `in the middle` I've kind of accepted Jay is gone but at the same time still can't comprehend he is gone. My `shift` I think it still to happen `mind is willing but the body just not ready yet to follow` but it will come I hope and it will happen. I'm only 17 months in now from losing Jay so a little bit behind you all. I am having another one of my `down weeks` but I know I will shake it and be ok again. I turn 3 score and 2 (62) next Thursday (21st). Don't know what to expect yet my birthday last year was very low-key and I expect will be the same this year. Did you know Fifi ( my wee Scottish friend) that my birthday is the same day as Voltaire the french writer you keep mentioning and I also share it with the actress Goldie Hawn. Ah `my claim to fame`. WDJ that was a lovely poem can resonate so much with it. Take Care everyone.

Vicky xx

Hello Sorry I didn't reply sooner. Thank you for your posting, it was really good. I know what you mean about shoddy workmanship. I have it here. Plus waiting for another repair on my roof. 6 months later. Fed up with it but I have to get it sorted soon.Yes, I too mutter and grrr ! My little cat Missy looks at me , wondering what's up ? This past few months I seem to have hit a new low, a bit lonely too. But not enough to find someone else ! Barry is a hard act to follow. And it took us a long time to find each other too. Nearly 40 years we were together. Miss him and our interesting talks. 

Anyway, another Christmas to get through. Hate this time of year. Simple things will be in order. Missy, wood fire on, some nice stew and some very nice wine !!

All the very best. Hugs to you.

Hello my friend 

Sorry not to have replied sooner. Yes, a birthday soon, and with all these " famous" people. Voltaire, Goldie Hawn. Well, as he says keep going, good for your health.

Apart from this I hope you are ok. Me, not very, but this time of the year is difficult.

A quiet Christmas but next year I have projects in mind. Partly Glasgow !!

Lots of hugs xxx take care xx

Hello 

How are you doing?

It's 26 months for me now.

I have moved since then but not exactly on as keeping busy avoids the free time gap. 

Working full time, yoga, swimming. Joined a walking group in the village, meet up sometimes with some widows and join way up zoom calls, go to some music concerts, doing more things definitely 

Everyone goes at their own pace and I think I give myself small doses of reality checks 

My daughter recently left home and often popped back at the weekend any way. This weekend no one is coming and a bit of a wake up call to face where I am. 

.. Lovely poem from wdj.thanks for sharing  Some how coping strategies is to keep my husband near.

Sending lots of love and strength to all facing this new life

Hello, just wanted to reply. I am up and down. One day buzzing with plans, the next day exhausted. The weather and time of year too. Meeting a friend this year at Christmas. Her husband is working away, and I don't have anyone, do I ?

Low key, simple is the plan.

I do keep busy though. Work in the house, decluttering and plans for a big project in Glasgow. For Barry. He was a photographer and journalist. I must do something with a his work before it is lost. He entrusted me with it. 

Take care 

Hugs