It's his birthday...

Birthdays can be tough. The 1st one especially so. 

Let your parents take care of you. 

You're still grieving, it's normal to feel odd, especially on occasion days.

Like Wildcat said let your parents look after you, they want to.

I know all about wanting to be under the duvet. I wish I could just have 1 day when I didn't have to face the world. 

Do you have a special place you can go with your parents, to remember/honour your husband.

Try and take some good out of a very sad day.

Love and hugs xx

Hello and I do understand how you feel The first birthday without Barry was quiet but I just wanted to go to the cemetery that day. I had a bench installed there, a first for my little French village ! Peaceful and the sun came out. I put flowers there and just talked to him. It was ok. Tears will fall. Don't hide it. The "duvet days " become a bit less too.

Go cuddle the cats !!!

Love and hugs.

Hi!

So sorry you feel this way but can relate. Lost my husband Jay in June last year (2023) to bowel cancer. He was never big on birthdays either or celebrations in general. His first birthday not being here past in February this year and it would have been a `milestone` birthday for him in what would have been his 70th. I know he would not have wanted a big fuss made of him and would just have wanted the two of us or our son and his partner all go out for a meal or something or to try to be away somewhere for it probably at our caravan which I've since sold on. Yes you are grown up at 60 and what you are feeling is normal. I'm 62 next next month and I now find myself reminiscing on things I did back when I was a teenager and my as I call them `pre-Jay days`. I was very awkward naive and introverted when it came to boys when I was in my teens/early 20's but meeting Jay brought me right out my shell I think because he was that little bit older than me I looked on him as someone `protective` and he ended up being a `keeper` and in the 40 years we were together I look back now and sometimes I just wonder where that awkward teen/twentysomething  went to and what would have happened to her had I not met Jay because I now realise I have grown so much over those 40 years with having our son and now being a grandmother. I'm still a bit introvert and private but starting to think things out for myself- well I have to because no one else will do it for me I don't have Jay to hide behind anymore I used to just let him take the lead on decisions and for all that I have him to thank. You will get there. My best wishes to you moving forward.

Vicky x