Hi Everyone!
Looking for a little bit of advice here. Jay's funeral is next Friday 14th July. In Glasgow that weekend it is a local holiday and I realise that and it's just the way the timing has worked out for this. Registering Deaths/Marriages/Births in Glasgow just now because of Covid (yes they're still using that as an excuse) are still getting done remotely either by telephone interview or online. This then held back getting a date for the funeral because a form from the registrar had to be sent to the undertakers in order for them to arrange a date with the crematorium Usually you just get the death/marriage/birth certificate and can go into their office in Glasgow city centre and get the form you need for the undertaker and take it straight there but for some reason they are still not allowing you to physically go into these places. Mid July in Glasgow for two weeks is known as the `Glasgow Fair Holiday Fortnight` years ago it was a big thing in Glasgow where industries like building etc all shut down for two weeks and everyone went on holiday. These days though its not such a big thing but some people still stick with tradition and take that holiday. I put a note up on my Facebook page to let people know of Jays funeral and said that I would not be offended if anyone could not come due to holiday commitments.
We have been finding it hard to get coffin bearers for Jay and I asked William my son if any of his friends would be willing to do it. He has a group of friends he has kept up with since school they've done all the night clubbing, finding girlfriends and having babies together bar one who likes the batchelor life too much. William then messages me and says can put the funeral back until a week this Monday (17th June) so all his friends can come because they are all going on holiday and won't be back until the Saturday the day after Jay's funeral. Really!?? Well i just felt the tension rising I said to him no I'm not doing that William because it took long enough to get it in place in the first instance and everything is booked and I just really want it over with now. It's bad enough that I still need to wait a full week for it to actually happen but for me to wait for at least another 10 days I think is a bit much. Had it been something like a birthday party or something ok, but not a funeral. He was very understanding about it though which surprised me because I expected him to come on the phone shouting the odds and said he just thought he would ask. Seemingly they are all going on a `lads holiday` to Tenerife without their partners/spouses call me old fashioned (probably am at 60 years old) but I thought the lads holidays all stopped once you had the house, the wife and the babies and these `lads` are all more or less in their 30's now. So obviously William can't go because of the circumstances. Now have guilt running through me like no ones business and it has left me feeling really uptight and I have enough to deal with just now. I now feel I have let him down because of this and I don't want to feel that way.
Vicky xx
