Julia Samuel

Dear Fifinet

Felt so moved by your sadness felt I  had to reply.  I am so fortunate in having family close by so just cannot imagine how difficult it is for you to face every day without your soulmate.  I have often read your posts and have felt admiration for the way you have coped since your loss.

is there anything like Cruse in France that you could join?  Let those ‘trusted’ friends know that you are finding life so difficult.  My husband died in August so I know grief is overwhelming at times and so hard to think about a different path to take.  It is just so painful and scary to think of life without our partners.

All I can do is to send love and hugs and let you know I am thinking of you.

Christine 

xx

Thank you very much.

Today I listened to music and a friend sorted out the DVD player..in French. So ..small things but also simple.

With love and hugs 

Hi Fifinet, sorry to hear you are seeing a downward slope ahead. Good job there is this forum to let off steam.

I see in Google this lady was a friend of Princess Di. 

It must be very difficult for you being alone

We need someone at hand to talk to when we feel like it. It is all more complicated now to see if anyone is free even to chat. Before we had our partners always with us.

I am also living outside the UK, near Barcelona Spain. I came in 1988 for a short time off, met Juan Luis and ended up staying. My kids are half Spanish and I am working full time still. . 

It's odd  as Juan Luis is the reason I am here and he's gone.But I've lived more years in Spain than UK now. .

I wonder if there are any local groups for you to go to? I am looking a bit more now as have signed up to way up UK, they have zoom meetings but could be nice to meet up face to face. 

It's 3 months since Juan Luís passed away from the horrible glioblastoma. Still not believing it

Dear Daybreak 

Thank you for replying and I have seen your posts and awful loss.The months go on, regardless of how we feel, but the pain and loneliness will always be there I think. Just have to find a way through it differently.

I have been in France now for 22 years, and not been back to Scotland for about 12 of them. Was thinking I would like a little trip back, but not yet. Seems overwhelming now. 

There is Cancer support France and a Grief Cafe each month locally, have contacted both and have a rdv soon. Thinking I do need some more support. This is me of course finding it hard to ask for help !! A proud staunch Scottish woman ! Now 67. Barry was 78. Thought we would have had more years together. Lost without him.

Yes I think Julia Samuel knew Princess Diana. I am going to continue to look at her work.

Well, a new day? At least the sun is out which does help?

A big hug to you

Fifinet,

I've found going 'home' to north of the border, as it is for me, quite helpful. It's brought me some comfort during the times I have visited even though we decided to leave those years ago.

It's 'funny' in some regards as I see it in a different light now. The drives alone though bring back so much. Sometimes it's joy but very often memories and the realisation I'm in the car on my own again.

A wee trip back though may bring something that you think it won't.

You'll make the right decision for you.

Take care,

WDJ

Dear WDJ 

Are you a Scot too ? Thanks for your reply. I seem to be stuck about going back "home "to Glasgow. So long since I was there, and no longer several good friends who have died. I am still very tired emotionally, coping with the last 8 months, then before caring for Barry. However, maybe later on in the year. 

Hoping you are coping as best you can too.

Take care

Fifinet,

Yes, I am. From the North East.

I've taken the route of keeping myself as busy as I can. It has helped me a little. I've been fortunate that I have stopped working, I will have to do something again eventually, and have focused on doing things that I want to do. That can't last forever though. It's worked to a degree as it sort of fills my day but then something happens and "bang" the realisation hits again.

I ask myself a lot am I doing the right thing, making the right decisions. Well, for now I'm ok with the ones I make. Will I 'fall'? I'm sure at some point, yes. There are a few significant dates looming in the next couple of months. I'm not sure how I'll be when they come along.

Take care,

WDJ