My boyfriend passed away, September 25th 2020. He had cancer that started in his femur then spread almost every where. All year I watched my best friend withering away. My mind just keeps replaying all the old arguments when he was healthy and I just beat myself up. I’m exhausted. My heart and brain are just aching.
With the holidays coming up it’s especially dreadful without him here anymore. I have never felt so alone in my life. I need people to talk to, to connect with on this subject..
Death Tess_98
Believe me you aren't alone with your thoughts and feelings. The more we love the more we remember and regret the harsh times, and so the 99.9% when everything was loving and beautiful seem to take second place to our guilt doesn't it ? You clearly love your boy friend very,very much bless his soul. Having lost my dear wife Anne to pancreatic cancer just over two years ago I can say this with some authority from personal experiences which I won't elaborate on. Your boy friend is safe and loves you to bits. NO! I'm not some religious person - far from it ! I just know what I know from evidence and many experiences from my Annes passing. Your boy friend forgives everything and loves you as always.
Geoff.
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