Feelig so lost

You are experiencing exactly the same as myself. I find it difficult deciding what to eat, cookimg it and the. As you say, don’t enjoy it one bit.

I am so used to shared experiences with my Linda, we shared Everything, she was my best friend and soul mate, we married in 1972, divorced in 1984 and remarried in 2008, she told me she had never stopped loving me since 1970, and when I think about it I believe it’s been the same for me. I thank God we had another 13 years together.  Yesterday was the first day I have t cried in 3 months, usually housework, making tea, shopping, absolutely everything reminds me of her, I talk to her constantly about decisions I have made, and anything numerous that’s happened. I miss her voice, her smile her laughter, everything. I feel the same and wish it had been me that have left this Earth instead of my Wife, she had so much more energy and love and was a far better person than I could ever be, she served life so much more than me. But GOD had other plans 

keep safe amd well

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That's a beautiful love story. It's amazing to have found your soul mate. And even if you spent some years apart, the years you've spent together have been good. I sometimes try to find comfort in the idea that I had found my soul mate too and was able to share twenty years by her side. It's not fair that it wasn't more, but some people never find their soul mate at all.

Everything you're going through is very natural. For me the numbness stopped after a couple months I think. There was one day when beyond the usual daily stuff, I suddenly felt like it was time to shake up and be more active. Time is the best healer, even if it's hard in the meantime.

Take care xx

Thanks for your words, yes it was a True love story, we only met the 2nd time by chance as was invited to a charity meal by my youngest daughter, then I said why not bring your Mum, she was surprised, as we didn’t have much to do with each other, but that evening was as magical as when we first met in 1970, the scene could have been out of a movie. We couldn’t keep our eyes off each other all evening, chatting and laughing. Was truly unbelievable to realise that we were both still madly in love with each other.

been 3 months now, don’t have any friends, my wife was my soulmate and best friend, didn’t need anyone else. I think about my future, being 68, don’t want to spend the rest of my life on my own…..but time will tell

That is a really wonderful thing to have experienced.

I think most of us in here have been in that position when we felt that we didn't to have many friends or anything else as long as we had each other and so it's an even bigger gap to fill now. But you might feel more inclined to socialise at one point, wether make new friends or even find someone else to share your life with. I did that jump a bit too early because I met a wonderful woman only 9 months after losing my wife and felt like everything could be back to normal in an instant. That was wrong and that didn't work out. I've been since learning to be happy as a single Dad, which is something else completely. Might still happen down the line.. Time will tell, as you say!

xx

Antoine

Hello

thats so sad to hear, seems like maybe it’s impossible to know the ‘right time’ for any particular person. I heard a story where a Wife dying from incurable cancer, set her husband up with a date to stop him being alone once she had passed, he then ended up marrying that women, I do t suspect this is any way a normal situation, but just highlights how different it is for everyone 

That's a great story. And a very dedicated lover! My wife didn't go that far (that would have been way too much for me!) But we talked about the idea of me moving on and not shutting down for the rest of my life. She didn't want that.

Yes I think there is hope down the line. My little love story was a bit early for me, because I think I was surprised by it! Now that it's been almost 14 months, I've had more time to clear my mind and I'm quite willing to start again on that bumpy road to love.

It's hard to predict what the future will hold but it's good to have hope. 

Someone told me “ no one should be alone, unless that is their choice “ seems a very true statement, I certainly don’t feel I want to spend the rest of my days alone, so will see what Faye has in store for me.

take care & keep safe

Who's that Faye? Seems like a hint already!

take care

No, a relative of mine

Aw it's great that she's looking after you and have plans!