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Hi Joanna

I’m so sorry that you’ve had to join this site as none of us have wanted to. My husband, Ian,  also died in June, only 7 weeks after his  initial diagnosis. We were married for 38 years. 

Ian was also my best friend and it is so hard to contemplate a future without him. I’ve just been looking at old photos and videos of him and the ‘floodgates’  just opened. 

I have found this site so supportive as until you have experienced the loss of a spouse, it is impossible to understand how overwhelming and devastating grief can be. Everyone says take one hour/ day at a time and that is so true.

I know what you mean about not allowing the pain in as I still can’t believe what has happened.  Logically I know but emotionally I just can’t accept it as it is too awful to bear at times. Sometimes I just ‘park it’ in a corner of my mind as this is the only way I can cope at the moment.

Please hold on to the fact that everyone grieves in their own way and there is no time frame. 

Take care of yourself, 

Julie x

Welcome Joanna,

So sorry to hear your sad news. Hopefully you will find that chatting/reading/sharing on here will help you. We can't take pain away but we, more than anyone can understand and identify with your loss, pain, hurt, even anger that is part of our grief and bewilderment.

Take time to process your grief and face things when you feel ready to. 

Take care and remember there is always someone on here to listen.

Mym x