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She's lovely. One of the reasons I like posting here is that I can be totally anonymous. It's also why I've not joined the Zoom meetings.

That's my reasons and others may be different.

Hi Keith,

My name is Melanie. One of the reasons why I am, and have always been, Melanie L on the forum is because I actually want people to know my real name. I always sign my messages with Mel. I suppose I have never been one for annonymity (is that the word?). When I show up here, I want to do so with my real name, with my grief as it is, be exactly who I am. But that's just me of course. 

By the way, if you want to join our next Zoom meeting, you are very welcome to do so. Everyone is welcome to come on those meetings. And everyone is finding them very helpful.

Best wishes

Mel

Hello

thanks, not sure if I could handle a zoom meeting, not that i have ever done one before, is there a schedule ?

Will have a think about it 

That’s perfectly understandable, we all have our own ways of managing our grief, one of the biggest things I have gained from this forum is that I am most definitely not alone. The emotions described are 100% what I am experiencing, God didn’t equip us very well to deal with the loss of a soulmate, however the pain I am feeling is an expression of the immense love I have for Linda,  take care

Hi Keith,

No there is no particular schedule. We just meet up in the chat room and talk about whatever we want to talk about and share. I have sometimes thought about introducing a little bit of a structure, but have then remembered that I am not offering the Zoom meetings as a therapist but as another bereaved spouse. We are all finding them hugely beneficial. Having said this, it is absolutely okay to join the meeting and not contribute. There are no expectations. So I would actually encourage you to join and see how you feel about it. Theere are no strings attached, it's just an opportunity to chat in person for those of us who want that.

Lots of love

Mel

Hello

thanks. I have never used zoom before, can you PM the next date time and a little guidance, will just be an observer for now if that’s acceptable , until I am sure it’s for me, thanks

Thank you