Work pals paperwork

Oh Sunsarah, there is so much to deal with and the current restrictions just make these hard tasks so much harder. It is no wonder you feel emotionally drained, I’m sure all of us on here can understand that. Returning to work must be a huge thing to face. It’s not something I’ve had to deal with being as I am retired but I can’t begin to imagine how I’d have felt if I’d had to deal with that too. I hope that things go as smoothly as they can and that a routine does help. 
The paperwork is unbelievable and although it will be 20 weeks tomorrow for me, I still panic about the things I might have forgotten to do. The car is due it’s service and the reminders from the garage keep coming addressed to him, even though I’ve phoned them to tell them. You’re quite right about how differently companies deal with our contact and as you say, the lack of compassion with some is shocking. 
To remind you to be kind to yourself sounds far too flippant but I do mean it. Try to take care and pace yourself where you can. I wrote things down to remind me what I’d done, who said what and what I’d got left to do. I tried to prioritise things so that I didn’t have to have the same conversation endlessly on the same day. I’m sure I haven’t suggested anything new or different so I’m sorry for not being more original.

The emotional rollercoaster is horrible, I want to get off now, I want someone to tell me it’s all been a nightmare and most of all I want our old, pre diagnosis, life back. 
Sending virtual hugs

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Thankyou 

I bought myself a folder last week as been working off a big pile of paperwork making life easier I haven’t wrote down conversation but think that’s great to remind myself who I have spoke to and what was said x I get very confused I suppose just like all finance bits sorted so can work everything out take away them worries 

me too like to get off this rollercoaster too and have a life back without cancer 

big virtual hug you take care of you too it’s hard when we haven’t for long xx 

This is what I’m also dreading the most. My Paul passed 9 weeks ago (age 53) I’m 46, and like you I’ve pretty much been in a ‘boarder line panic attack’ cocoon of paperwork phone calls and funeral arrangements. (That’s all stopped now thank goodness) 

I’m self employed and I’m terrified of having to explain or have ‘sympathy’ from everyone who knew our situation the moment they walk through my door. I’m officially open 12th April and whilst  the whole world seems to be celebrateing  everything opening again on this date, it fills me with fear and dread. I can’t even pick up the phone to call my customers to let them know they can pick up their orders. Cause I know they’ll ask how he is...

And I agree the restrictions make it so much harder, if I had a pound for every time I heard, ‘I wish I could hug you’...my own mum and dad won’t come near me, hug me, they just stare at me with sympathetic looks on their faces it’s utterly ridiculous. 

people say wrong things all the time. I’ve come to realise that they have absolutely no idea what Were going through cause they haven’t lost their sole mate, life partner, so whatever they say it won’t be right to us, but at least they tried and the heart is in the right place. 
lol I even had a neighbour that didn’t listen to me, kept shutting me down and went on and on how her husband has a bad leg and had several tests but the drs don’t know what it is.....her mouth was moving but I shut it out and just nodded

Please keep posting and I agree with kenickiesmum be kind to yourself, it doesn’t all have to be done in a day. Some days I managed to tick 3 phone calls off the list, others I only just managed to have a bath. Both are equally vital achievements. Xx

Lots of love

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Hi Claraul 

sending you a big virtual hug xx