Healingbut does someone understand how I feel?

Oh my gosh, I really feel for you. Some hospitals within trusts don’t treat Covid19 patients so are doing operations. They can transfer you. Also the NHS have taken over some private hospitals who are also doing some operations. So many counselling services are closed at present due to Covid. Call your GP first thing Monday morning to explain how you’re feeling, they may be able to help regarding both your physical & mental pain. You must soldier on for your children, thank god you’re not alone. I wish you all the best xx

I can't suggest anything but you probably took the first step posting on here. We are all on the same road just different stretches on it and I think you are at a very steep part.

I send you all the positive vibes I can muster and I would say nearly all of us here have been in a very similar place that you are now. Us lot will do our bit to help and support you. In my early days as a "bereaver" this forum and the very kind people on it helped me hugely and they continue to do so on my journey back to whatever my new normal will be.

Look after yourself and permit us to offer support where we can.

Kind regards mcc

Hi Dolini I'm so sorry for your loss and offer my condolences to you its just so painful when we lose our soulmate s . Regarding your pain you could get a doctor out or call the nhs tonight , god I'm so weak I'm in tears for slightest ache you are so brave please get some help You have the kids to be mum too . God bless.

Hi 

I work for the Nuffield. I am a pre assessment nurse therenthere but also qualified orthopaedic nurse We are only allowed to take NHS patients at the moment because of government and NHS contracts. All operations are graded for urgency. We are doing surgery but it is mainly cancer operations and urgent fractures etc. 

All operations whether private or NHS patients will be graded for a few months yet. Things like hip replacement will be lower priority although yours sounds like it will be s priority hip replacement. 

I know how painful it is as I had a hip replacement 12 years ago and have other arthritic joints so I sympathize. I would suggest you go back to your GP to at least get some decent pain killers like oromorph to tide you over and for him to write to orthopaedic so you are top of the list for when they can operate. 

I found positioning my hip with pillows and lying face down with my leg stretched out helped. Have you any physio exercises as you need to keep strong quads too. I also used night time kalms with a glass of wine at night to get a few hours sleep. Heat pads and cold compress (ice) may help too. I use deep heat spray when I have a flare up. Tumeric was helpful To my husband who had arthritis too.

Rest when you can but also some exercise is good to stop you getting stiff.. your GP may recommend anti inflammatory painkillers but the orthopods believe they can degenerate joints so use with caution. 

Take care

Love and hugs Alison xxx

The private hospitals that the NHS haven’t taken over are running as usual. One private hospital in my area which has been taken over by the NHS were prepared to give my mother a CT scan on a private basis.