Bad day and bad days.

Hello Elaine, I'm sitting at my husband Colins graveside and missing him like crazy after losing him to this dreaded disease 10 weeks ago tomorrow. The bad days seem to keep popping up even after your 3 year loss, it means you remember him always. When I leave the cemetery I tell Colin 'I miss you Honey, I love you and I want you back' 2 out of 3 'aint bad as the song goes !!

I like this site because there's lots of people at different stages of grief here, we can all help each other. 

Stay safe x

Hello BootsyD.

Thankyou for message. I wasn't expecting a reply.

I'm so sorry for  your loss. I promise you the days do get better. It's just.nice to have someone to turn to when the bad days come that understands.

Take care. X

Hi Elaine

Carla my partner died six weeks ago and I feel I'm living in some kind of waking nightmare, punctuated by periods of lucidity and bemused wakefulness.

I find I'm doing weird stuff as well (Carla might suggest that is nothing new) I think you can give yourself a bad day now and then.

As Carla's ashes will be placed in the family grave here in Italy, we had to get a plaque for it, we didn't want anything fancy so for the inscription we put 

"L'amore vive per sempre"  (Love lives forever)

Hello Elaine,

It does get better but the pain is always lurking somewhere. The fact that we miss them so means they were amazing people, at least for us, and, in a way, it's a tribute to their lives. Don't know if what I'm saying makes sense. My husband died Dec 20 2018 and even now I have moments when I'm in utter shock at what happened and still don't get it. He was supposed to live forever!

Sending you hugs.

Elaine,  I heard deep love and attachment for your Raymond. I wonder if some things will never stop hurting and being vivid. So hello and a supportive smile and a virtual hug from a new bereaver and appreciation that you are still linked in to this site, which gives me hope and knowing that the support can be there for as long as needed and can be tapped into.