8 months on ....

Good morning Geoff such a lovely post and I am so glad you feel this way. I agree with all you say as you know I lost my Ron over 3 years ago after 50nyears of marriage too and my lovely memories and of course my wonderful family are keeping me going. Love and hugs Geoff. xxxx

Hi Jeff and all,

That was a beautiful post, Jeff. And I so much understand where you are coming from. Because I, too, have noticed changes over the months. When I joined this group first I told my story and listened to others who were the same time line or a little bit longer on this journey and I remember thinking: Wow, how are they doing this? As I mentioned here before, I, too, thought about suicide in the first days and weeks after my husband's death because I just found it too painful and I couldn't think of a life without him ahead of me. But, over time, I noticed that the posts in which I asked for help/opinion/an open ear became slightly fewer and I found myself more in the position of the one who was able to be a listening presence for others; not because I wasn't grieving as we all know but because I now found my grief more manageable and felt more able to talk to others from a little more experience o this journey. When I read posts of newly bereaved people on this forum today my heart goes out to them and I do understand because I was in the same situation once. And I, too, still have moments of intense grief, moments when the pain of loss and the loneliness or the fear of having to do things we used to do together on my own now. But I know now that no mtter how hard it can get at times I am able to cope because after every wave of grief, no matter how big, there is a different feeling again.

I have found meeting with friends and socialising as well as my work the most helpful tools along the way. My best days are the ones when I am incredibly busy. And the days when I have very little to do or when, like now, I can't have a lot of social contacts tend to be worse. But we'll get through it, won't we?

Love to everyone, Mel.

Hi Mel , 

We will all indeed get through it sweet lady.

My heart renching grief has subsided to smaller bouts of tears. Yet tears of love, but not of dispair. Being a life long  Spiritual person I've had so many signs that my sweetheart is safe and loved where she is now in the other dimension -  some even call it heaven.  All her illnesses and suffering gone : along with her poor physical body.

ALL our sweet hearts are ALIVE They really are. 

Love and Light 

Geoff x