My mum passed unexpectedly on Tuesday. She had a radial cysectomy a year ago and unbeknown to me and my brother had SCC.
I don’t believe she realised how aggressive it was and neither her nor my dad showed us any letters and she seemed to think that it was gone.
her CT scan in March was clear and yet it seemed to completed overwhelm her between then and now.
I’m totally devastated and don’t know what to do
Hi Lola1021
Sorry to hear about your mum. I lost mine back in 2013 also unexpectedly and while it was not what she died of the only found her cancer at the autopsy.
While there is no right or wrong way to grieve it is quite important to remember to be nice to yourself. Often things can seem quite busy up until the funeral, some I have been to have been a fantastic celebration of a life well lived.
If you find at some point you would like to talk there are a couple of chariities that people have found quite helpful - cruse bereavment care and the loss foundation
<<hugs>>
Steve
