i lost my wife towards the end of last month it wasn't expected everything happened so quick didn't have time to process anything its knocked me for 6 i have no words for the pain i have been suffering since been through so many emotions on the outside people think im doing a good job of keeping things going but inside its killed me some days struggling and nights hard to switch off and rest is it always going to feel like this ?? does it get easier in time only someone in my shoes could relate to what im going through its been so hard the kids are the only purpose i have to keep going on
Hi jammin75
Im sorry to read about your wife. A month is no time at all (im 6 months after losing my husband), your head will be all over the place and sometimes just getting through the day is enough.
You might like to pop over to the bereaved spouse forum, we are a friendly bunch and you can talk about anything, and know that everyone gets it and noone judges.
One thing I have learned is that grief takes its own path for each of us, there is no time scale, and I am learning to be less hard on myself.
Are your children still at home?
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