can't face Christmas without mum

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Last year I lost my wonderful mum after a three year battle which she fought so bravely.

Her birthday is in the 20th of this month and we always made a big fuss of it as it was near Christmas.

I'm struggling so much this year. I have regular nightmares about seeing her last moments and the lack of compassion that the medical staff showed (i could hear them arguing with each other when I waited seven hours alone in a room with mum's her body)

Most days I'm close to tears and finding it hard to think of anything but loosing her.

Sorry if this is an essay but I'm on my own now

Ktp 1 hour ago

Hi Barneythedog

I’m so sorry. I lost my mum two weeks ago - two days before her birthday - and am dreading Christmas… having to style it out for the kids.

Maybe you’re not as alone as you feel right now. Do your friends and neighbours know how much you are struggling? Could you join a group to help you feel part of something? (I volunteer as a scout leader and my fellow leaders have been so lovely).

Regarding the nightmares, that sounds horrible. Could you reach out to your GP? Get some therapy? Join a local group where you can talk and others will empathise?

Anyway I’m no expert… just starting the journey myself, but your post touched me so I wanted to reach out and send hugs.

Barneythedog 1 hour ago in reply to Ktp

Thank you for your kind message.

I'm so sorry to hear about your mum

One of my friends reached out late last night (my old gp) and we are going to meet up this week. I'll talk to him about the nightmares and see what advice he can give.

I wish you all the best

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