My mum passed away on 7 September. She spent 4.5 days in the hospice and I was with her when she passed away. I was not expecting to be with her at the end as I live 300 plus miles away. She was diagnosed with terminal pancreatic cancer on 9 may 2025. I spent as many weekends as I could going back to bristol. There was a month wait before the funeral. I have a really good boss at work who basically protected me for 5 weeks and gave me tasks that weren't too challenging. I feel like the last week or so I have started to really struggle. I come home from work and cry. I am not close to my family and dont have a big friend network. I am autistic only diagnosed 3 years ago and I feel like this is just adding another layer to being able to understand and process my mums death/grief. I have taken barely any time off work. In the early weeks I needed work to give me structure and keep my mind busy. Now I am finding everything a challenge like I dont have enough brain space left as grieving is taking up a lot of it even though I dont feel like I am grieving.
Hello Jkcbe2247
I am Brian, one of the Community Champions here on the online Community. I am so sorry to read of your loss at this time and offer my sincere condolences, I know how hard it is to lose a parent, even if it is expected.
Life after such an event can be hard but there is support out there for you. in England we have Cruse Bereavement Support on 0808 808 1677 or www.cruse.org (Scotland 0808 802 6161 and www,crusescotland.org.uk). There is also "At A Loss" which is a website directory of bereavement services on www.ataloss.org.
Don't forget we also have our our Support Line for you on 0808 808 00 00 (8am to 8pm 7 days a week), please do give them a ring as they can offer you additional support too.
If I can do anything else for you please do come back to me.
Best wishes - Brian.
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