Dad’s sudden cancer diagnosis and death

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In early January 2025, my dad collapsed suddenly at home and required CPR. Thankfully he was brought back around and taken into hospital for various tests to be done. Upon arrival, it was noted that he may have had some seizures. Throughout the next few days, it was then discovered he had diabetes, something he’d been unaware of. This led us to believe the diabetes had caused his collapse. Over the coming days, dad appeared to perk up but tests were still being carried out. He was then transferred to an oncology ward where we were told, doctors believed he had lymphoma. Doctors and staff remained positive and reminded us that because my dad was a young, fit, 54 year old man, treatment would be available and things were looking positive. 12 days after dads admission, we as a family were called into the hospital and spoken to by the doctors. They informed us that my dad had cancer everywhere in his body, no treatment would help and that he only had a matter of days left. Just 24 hours later, my dad passed away. As a 29 year old girl, this has completely floored me. I find myself angry and confused at how he went from being healthy to dying within 2 weeks. Has anyone else experienced anything like this? We’re 8 months down the line and I still find myself feeling numb. I’m hopeful some of you will be able to share some coping mechanisms or ideas of things that have helped you navigate your way through grief. Thank you. 

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    i am Brian, one of the Community Champions here at Macmillan. i have noticed your post has gone unanswered so by me replying it will be "bumped up" to the top of the group and I hope seen and replied to by other members of this group.

    I am so sorry to read of your circumstances, it's hard being able to cope with death, but when it's unexpected it's almost impossible to accept it and come to terms with it. Here's a link for you with some further advice and links which I hope you find useful:

    Coping-with-bereavement.

    Do remember our Support Line on 0808 808 00 00 (8am to 8pm 7 days a week is also open and will be able to help you.

    Best wishes - Brian.

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