It's been nearly 2 years since I lost my brother to his cancer.
As I nursed him for the last few months and watched him deteriorate and waste away until he passed, I did really struggle to come to terms with our loss. I was lucky enough to get great counselling, through my employer, and the fantastic support of my family and friends. Macmillan were brilliant throughout his illness and were a great support t his wife and family, and to myself, of course!
I would speak to him at least a couple of times a week and this I still mis enormously, the banter and the craic was great and we had planned for him to visit us in Ireland, but he never was well enough to travel.
I miss our long discussions, particularly at the weekends, but the positive of this is that he's not forgotten, and nor will he ever be.
Thanks,
Flub.
Hi Flub
I am sorry to hear that it is coming up to 2 years since you lost your brother to cancer. I always find that at the anniversary and family occasions can bring up a lot of memories and are a time of reflection.
I am glad that you have had plenty of support from your family, friends, employer and Macmillan. Support from others can make a big difference. I understand that you miss your chats and banter with him- sometimes it can be those sort of things that we miss the most.
I know in our family they are not forgotten and we keep our memories alive and pass them on to the new and younger members of our family.
Thinking of you and if you feel like you need to talk things through, please do give the Support Line a call.
Jane
