My husband passed away last week,he was diagnosed with kidney cancer end of August this year.He was admitted to hospital on the monday.on the Wednesday doctors told me and my daughter he was really poorly and wouldn't make it till Xmas.The next day he died with us holding his hand.it all happened so quickly.i miss him so much,I feel broken my daughter is keeping me going
Hello Glambert
I am so sorry to hear that you husband passed away last week. I can only imagine how difficult it must feel for you all.
I hope that you can take some comfort from you both being with him at the end.
Through my own experiences of grief, I know that the first few days are very difficult and I felt a whole range of emotions. Sometimes numbness, sometimes tearfulness and sometimes just the yearning and missing someone. I suppose in a way what helped was going with the flow with the emotions and reaching out to others. Sometimes I wanted to talk. Sometimes I needed time alone to grieve. There really is no right or wrong way.
Keeping some sort of routines helped me although at times. Even though with my family it was expected, it was still a shock when it actually happened. I spent a lot of time feeling like I was just going through the motions.
I found some helpful resources on here and will pop a link below.
Coping with bereavement and cancer | Macmillan Cancer Support
I also found Cruse had some helpful information
Home - Cruse Bereavement Support
Please do also remember the Support Line is there if you need it. For me I found that moments of grief could sneak up on me and talking it through could help. Sometimes it helped to talk to family and friends and at other times it helped to speak to someone who I did not know.
Although we can not take away the pain you are feeling at the moment, you do not have to face it alone. I am sorry for your loss.
Jane
