Today is the 3rd anniversary of my dad passing - which all happened very suddenly.
it’s the first year since he passed that I’ve not spent the whole day on my own and saw a friend for an hour, but I felt the whole time like I had to suppress my grief so she didn’t regret offering. now I’m home I’m a mess. Does anyone have any tips for making it though the anniversaries, as it’s also his birthday in two weeks when I return to work and I’m worried about how I’ll cope that day (I’m a teaching assistant).
Hi SammyGA
All kinds of anniversaries can be difficult and it can be really helpful to talk about our emotions. I find it helpful to think of all the really good times and the amazing people mum and dad were.
Have you tried reaching out to cruse or the loss foundation as talking through emotions can be really helpful.
I tended to find being busy with work quite helpful as I had so many other things to think about but it may be worth talking to with friends at work who may also be able to support you. I know when I opened up about my wife's cancer I found quite a few people who shared with me things about their own lives that they never felt comfortable talking about before.
<<hugs>>
Steve
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