Hi sorry to hear of your loss of your brother. Its a difficult time grief, you dont want to burden others as you feel they are having a hard time of it. One thing i learnt when my dad passed away was, you need each other more than ever and talking to others going through it helps you all. When dad died my brother wouldnt talk to anyone about how he felt until one night, i opened up to him how i was struggling to understand why we had to lose our dad. He was glad to be able to get things off his chest he told me he was struggling too. We helped each other through the process. If i never had opened up and told him i was in a bad way he would have been bottling it up also. If you feel you cant talk to family still, you have reached out to try and get some help in coping. This is one step closer to learning how to cope with the new normal. Happy to be an ear, will be a welcoming distraction from the recent loss of my mum. Keep strong
Hi there, grief can be so overwhelming. The intensity of it has shocked me. My husband passed on the 4th August, and the funeral is this Friday. Unfortunately, his passing was difficult, and I suffered from nightmares and couldn’t sleep without the light on. Today, we went into the funeral parlour to pay. My daughter and I decided we needed a sandwich, so went into the pub opposite for a cold drink. Then it hit me, that he was there, across the road. I felt this horrible throat tightening, it was almost at panic attack level. How am I meant to get through the funeral on Friday ? I feel for you. I think the brain protects us to a degree, and then it gradually filters in. Kind regards, perhaps you could talk to close friends.
