Hello All
Yesterday I had a great shock.
I was trying to locate my sister on the internet.We had grown apart over the years.
She lived on Hayling island near The isle of wight.
During the search I came across an undertakers website.This site displayed recently deceased people. I don't no why I started looking, but I did, and with a growing sense of unease. To my shock there was my sister. She had passed away in 2023.
I felt I had been kicked in stomach the shock was unbelievable.
Although we had grown apart I felt sure someone would have contacted me.
This what happens when possible family conflicts can be so harmful.
It's now two days since I first became aware of my sister's passing. The sorrow and grief is almost unbearable .
She had a total hysterectomy some years ago and traces of cancer were found but I believe the operation went well.
Iam not sure whether the cancer had returned or not though and was the cause of death but I hope it's ok to post on this forum.
This is terrible case of " What if" "If only I had"
I can't believe she has gone.
Such sadness.
Andy
Hi Andy welcome to the forum. I am so very sorry to hear what has happened for you and totally empathise with the way in which you have found out this news which must be awful for you. I think most of us have family that we don't keep in touch with and lose touch but it must be so sad when it is a sibling and you had not notification.
Andy I have no words to make any of this any better for you but I am thinking of you and please be gentle on yourself what will be will be and what if is not going to make any one feel any better so be kind to you and remember that you tried the best you could.
gail
