Not accepting

Hi it is so hard when we lose someone even when they are ill. But grief is personal and we all grieve differently. Allow yourself time and don’t put a time on your grieving. I lost my father 33 years ago I still miss him so much. Just go easy on yourself and I hope this has helped 

Lei

Thank you 

I have typed a few messages on here since I joined a few days ago. Each message has been a sort of comfort but still need answers /advice. Am told time helps but I can't imagine it will. 

I have been told that when you lose someone, you just have to go through the pain and the emotions and that is that and that time makes it easier to accept it. In my case it has only been four months. People keep telling me it is not long enough. When you grieve even a second feels like eternity. I also would like answers but the type that human beings have been after for millions of years: what is the sense of life? Why do we have to live and die? I have been offered the imagine of a cloudy glass of apple juice. When the juice settles, the glass will become clear. I am surrounded by other loved ones who lost their mothers and fathers and survived. They tell me you do find the strength somehow to move on with your life and you do find answers and acceptance. I want to honour my father’s death by making the most of my life because I know he would have wanted me to. I hope my thoughts are of some kind of help to you too. 

Don't feel any pressure to accept your loss! You're on your journey and everyone else is on theirs. Be kind to yourself as I don't think there is a right or wrong answer. My Nan always says "do what you can" and by visiting your GP and talking about your Dad you are doing what you can. You are doing your Dad proud.