Hi just writing this early on Christmas morning but it doesn’t feel like Christmas nor do I care . I’ve only started to reach out to Macmillan’s cancer support in the past four days. A very close family member was diagnosed with terminal cancer only few days ago sadly died on Saturday. The whole family is in shock and grief . The person wasn’t old….it seems unreal and so unfair.
Hello Millbob
I am glad that you have reached out to Macmillan in the last few days and I hope that we can be of some support.
I am very sorry to hear that your family member had a diagnosis of terminal cancer and died on Saturday. I can understand the shock and grief you must all feel and that it does seem so unfair.
It is a fair few years now since we had the same with my Mum, but we were lucky I suppose that we did have a few months before she passed. To me what helped was to go with the flow and let the emotions out, there were some very low times but in time we did get through these. Talking about Mum and expressing just how upset we felt did help. A lot of tears at times. Shock and feeling numb, overwhelming sadness, anger, frustration are all feelings we went through. And we all seemed to deal with things in different ways and in our own time. I personally found sometimes very simple things, such as going out for a walk in the fresh air would help.
There is, I know nothing that I can say to take the pain away that you are all feeling but please do not feel alone. There are many wonderful people on here who have been a great support to me through my own cancer journey and they will want to offer support to you.
The Online Community is here all through Christmas. I will pop a link below with a bit of additional info for the next couple of days.
(1) Accessing support during the festive season - Macmillan Online Community
I am really sorry that you as a family are going through this.
Jane
Sometimes it can help to just write it all down. Being angry is a normal and very justified emotion at a time like this. As if the numbness and shock. I found my emotions were very up and down. Please do reach out if there is anything you think we can do to support you and your family.
