I have been reading these discussions for a little while now, my grown up child has developed secondary cancer in a few places and my story is exactly the same as you all. One message I read this morning said something that I totally resonate with. I am in the pit of despair and can hardly function but this is grieving whilst my child is ill, is this grieving before the grieving really starts if my child doesn't recover? How will I cope with that?
Probably this doesn't make sense in when written down. And am I being disrespectful to read other peoples pain, just so I don't feel so alone. Even so, other peoples discussions sometimes give me hope and sometimes answers.
Thanks for listening
Hi Mum here and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
I'm very sorry to read that your child has secondary cancer and it's natural to feel as you do.
I hope you don't mind me suggesting that you join and post this message in the supporting someone with incurable cancer group, which is a safe and supportive place to share your worries and get support from others who are going through the same as you.
If you'd like to join just click on the link I've created and then choose 'join this group' on the page that opens. You can then copy and paste your post from here into a new post there after selecting 'start a discussion' and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
It would be great if you could pop something about your child's diagnosis and treatment into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
Sending a supportive ((hug))
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