My dad is 85 and has had lung cancer for around 2 years. He refused any treatment and thought he could fix it all himself.
He was in hospital for a month and has been home for almost a week, he has deteriorated and we’ve been told he only has a couple of days left max.
He has been a great dad and I couldn’t have asked for any more from him, I feel grateful that we have had this time to say goodbye and tell him how much we all love him and share old memories. And he has got to meet his grandson who is 4 months old. But I am still terrified for when he takes his last breath and how it will effect my mom.
I don’t know what I’m looking for from this message, I just feel so lost and helpless and I don’t know what to do to make things better. Sometimes I think it would be better for everyone mostly dad if he went right now, but then one more smile or one final I love you is worth more than anything at the moment.
I feel broken and lost
Hi Nb2509 and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
I'm very sorry to hear about your dad's diagnosis and it's natural to feel how you do and to worry about how best to support your mom.
I hope you don't mind me suggesting that you join and post this message in the supporting someone with incurable cancer group, which is a safe and supportive place to share your worries and get support from others who are going through the same as you.
If you'd like to join just click on the link I've created and then choose 'join this group' on the page that opens. You can then copy and paste your post from here into a new post there after selecting 'start a discussion' and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
Sending a supportive ((hug))
"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
I totally understand what you are going through. It is the most horrible time. I lost my dad in August and remember being with my dad in these final days. I just held his hand, spoke to him and told him I loved him. They say hearing is the last sense to go so it is likely he will know your voice. Nothing can take the pain away it’s hell. I still struggle but feel so blessed to have had a lovely relationship with my dad and know he felt loved. Take care and know we have all been there. Sending love 
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