Dad passing

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My Dad died last Wednesday after a9 month diagnosis of lung cancer. He was initially given a couple of months without treatment but lasted 9. . He had good and bad days the bad outweighed the good in the last 2 weeks but did so well. He became non responsive on the Tuesday morning and was gone by the Wednesday evening after only that afternoon having the driver in. I have lived with him since I was 13 after divorce and have always been a real daddies girl. Doing everything for him and caring for him. When he died I had a good cry but since then nothing. I literally have no feelings I really thought I would be a mess as I loved hime so much. I am thinking I must be heartless and something wrong. 

  • It is still so early for you, my Dad died last July and I remember the numbness so well and sometimes feeling absolutely nothing and it was just awful and so lonely, it is totally normal and all part of grief , sending love to you xx 

  • I'm so sorry for your loss. There is nothing wrong. Grief can take many forms and change continually. Sometimes i feel as if nothing has happened. Other times i can hardly breathe with sadness. There is no set way to grieve. We all feel it differently and at different times. The key is to give yourself the time and space to do it in your own way. Do you have any people you can speak to and get hugs from when you need them? Sending you a hug here. Xxx

  • Yes my husband took a couple of days off. I feel he was a bit annoyed at me that I didn’t need him more and I wasn’t a mess. I have always been the one that sorts stuff. I am very pragmatic. I did most of the care for dad and even before he was ill he has always had heath issues. I went back to work yesterday and he hasn’t even been gone a week. I really feel guilty that I am not as sad/gutted I expected to be, and that I am doing my dad a disservice x

    Sarah