I am so sorry for your loss. How are you? I lost my twin brother 10 days to bowel cancer. We are 40. It has been so tough, and I am sad beyond comprehension. I don't assume anything of your experience, we are all unique even under similar circumstances. I hope you are ok with the right support around you. I hope you are gentle towards yourself. I know I need that reminder a lot. If you ever want to share, I am here.
I'm so sorry to hear this. I too had twin sisters. I say had because one passed when she was only 17 years old from a brain tumour I was only 6 years old when it happened. Her surviving twin my older sister has lived since then with various mental health and learning issues. There is that bond with identical twins and it is true that you lose a half of yourself if one goes. Being so young at the time I really didn't understand about her loss but as time went on and I got older my mum and dad were able to explain it better to me. My sister just didn't accept that her twin had gone and after my mum passed 28 years ago and she and my dad (he was her carer) moved to another house she insisted on having 2 beds in her room and when my dad asked why she needed to have two beds she said that that was her sister's bed that is how badly it affected her. When my dad passed 12 years ago I took over being her carer/next of kin and I have since managed to get her into a sheltered housing complex within walking distance from myself. She is independent in that she can go out on her own etc but there are a lot of other things she needs me for mainly things in authority. She recently has just come through a cancer diagnosis too. They discovered bowel cancer in her only two months after my husband passed from the same condition but luckily hers was not as serious and they were able just to take her in and cut the tumour out which was very small without the need for post chemo or radiotherapy treatment. She has since gone on to make a good recovery. She sometimes says to me that she `see's` her sister when she is out and about and at one time she was at a small gathering in her complex hall and she said she seen her sister standing at the end of the corridor but when she looked up again she had gone. I think I have heard this happen to people in the past. I'm so sorry for your loss and wish you well moving forward.
