Bad dreams

Hi Sad life11

I believe time is a healer. My husband is still going through the GBM4 hell and I'm pretty sure the memories will live with me for a long time to come.

Take comfort in the fact he's not suffering any longer and that he wouldn't want you to be sad.

Please remember that MacMillan are still here to support you should you need to talk to someone about how you feel.

Sending love and light and hugs

Wee me  xx

Hi Sad life11

My mother died in 2020 before I turned 17, so I understand your frustration and you being upset about this. I would say that time is a healer but to an extent - time helps by healing your pain, but it doesn't make you feel 'better'. You just learn to cope with it in different ways. In terms of dreams/thinking about them, I suggest you talk to someone about this, as this could be a premature form of PTSD, and this is extremely common, particularly with people that have been through parental/family bereavements. I have gone through the same things, and it has been 2 years since my mum's death, and honestly whilst it still hurts, it hurts less but I accept her death more now and I am content that she is not in pain anymore. I had nightmares and couldn't stop thinking about the hospital room and the hospital itself for months, and I even prevented myself from crossing paths with that hospital as it would give me major anxiety attacks, but that passed after a while. I suggest talking to someone about this, it doesn't have to be a healthcare professional, but anyone would be fine, as long as you're comfortable with sharing this to them. I really hope you're doing okay! <3

Hi Sad life11.

I lost my dad in March this year and I often dream about him going through his treatment.

I keep wondering if I could have made things better for him.

I think I must have dreamt about him last night as when I woke up I had to remind myself that he is gone.

The whole experience of being with him in the hospice and being there with him whilst he left us is really difficult to think about, but I try to push it pit of my mind as much as I can, so that may be why I keep dreaming about him.

I hope you are doing okay. xx

I had some horrible nightmares just after Mum passed. I don't get them at the moment. 

My Dad stayed with us just before Christmas and called out for Mum as he woke from a nap one day, and at night was suffering terrible nightmares which he fully believed to be true.

This seems to have settled since Christmas has passed at least at the moment. It was horrible as the noise would wake us all and he was insistent they were real. It took a lot of talking about for him to recognise it wasn't.

I'm up now as I don't settle well currently- worried for him.