Hi, last Christmas I lost my beautiful big sister to secondary breast cancer. It came as a shock, we new her diagnosis was 4/5 years, but from have a course of radiotherapy at the beginning of December 2021, to discussing end of life on Christmas Day!!!! She was only 57
6 weeks after her funeral, I was diagnosed with invasive ductal carcinoma (primary breast cancer). They say it’s not hereditary, just purely bad luck. My treatment started very quickly, and with all that was going on, I don’t feel I had time to process her death.
Now, all of a sudden, it’s hit me, and I am really struggling to cope 
Hi Jewdrop welcome to the forum. I am so sorry that you have not had a reply as yet. It sounds like things happened very quickly in respect of your sister and then a very short time after that you yourself had a life changing event. Im not surprised that you didnt have time to process her death and little wonder. It sounds like it may be as a delayed type of grieving or it could be that you have time and space in your mind now that your treatment is finished to think about your sister and her passing.
Do you have the ability to speak to your GP re how you are feeling if you are struggling to cope, as continuing to try to do that without help can be more damaging than actually seeking out help.
If you felt able to you could give the MacMillan Line a call and speak to someone there about how you are feeling as they have lots of services that may be of benefit for you. 08088080000.
I am however delighted to hear that your treatment is at an end and that you are out the other side, thats marvellous news.
xx
gail
