My brave dad

Hi,

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my Dad in February 2022 to Lung Cancer. He was diagnosed in June 2021, really had it rough for 7 months and after Dec 2021 he really declined. It was harsh. He went into hospital on his birthday, 5th Feb as he was struggling to breathe and we were told it was a severe chest infection, but it was progression of his cancer and he passed away with his family by his side on 8th February.

Like your Dad, he put on such a brave fight even though he knew what was coming, I am so proud of him and so proud to call him my Dad. We are 7 months in and I have good and bad days, you never get off that road but as time goes on you become stronger with dealing with it, I miss him so much.

I went to see my Dad 3 times at the chapel of rest, it was hard but I would rather have gone and dealt with the pain than have regret for the rest of my life if not going, it’s a personal choice for all. I wanted to see him and be with him.

One day at a time x 

I know exactly how you are feeling. My dad passed on 19 th of august after a battle. It was so hard to see his deterioration. Like you I have so many images I need to remove from my mind. He was an amazing dad and my rock. I miss him so much. I still have our loud conversations with him and blow a kiss to his picture every day. 
thise last images haunt me. Like you it is very early days. I am assured these images go. I try to remember my dad as he was when he was well. Take care and I hope your bad days become fewer. I still have many bad days. 

I also lost my dad on the 12th of September and was with him when he passed I imagine we had similar experiences , every night when I close my eyes I see his last breaths and each time I look at a photo of him my heart sinks , I saw him at the chapel of rest and it made me feel comforted as he looked peaceful however I also see him this way often when I think of him. 
mom struggling to cope with my emotions but am using support lines such as cruse where you can call or web chat , Macmillan support line and my friends to help get me through !! 
I think it’s a case of taking each day as it comes and allowing yourself to express how you feel in whatever way you need to .

I wasn’t emotional at the funeral particularly which concerned me but I realised this was due to my pride , of being his daughter , I hung onto every word said and made a tribute if my own too.

you have to do you that’s all you can be right now 

sending lots of love and care 

Hi everyone 

Much of what you are all saying resonates with me too. I can see so much of what I am experiencing in what you are all going through. 

I lost my lovely husband on 29 July. We were married for 51 years. He was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer of the oesophagus in April this year and it took him so quickly it was absolutely brutal. I too have images I can't seem to get past. I was with him at the end and I am grateful for that but the memories of what he went through are so hard to come to terms with.

Mingomamie you say you weren't emotional at your Dad's funeral. I was just the same. It felt comforting more than anything and I was so proud of the way my family paid tribute to their Dad and that we were able to carry out his wishes just as he wanted.

I am struggling a bit now especially with the darker nights, I do tend to feel a bit isolated and miss his company so much. My family are wonderful though and I appreciate them so much. I also have some very good friends who are being really supportive.

I hope as time passes our mindset will change bit by bit and we can take comfort in our happy memories of our loved ones.

Much love to you all.

Hey.

sorry to hear about your dad. I lost mine 5 days ago. The whole experience has been so traumatic I can’t stop thinking about it either. 
I wasn’t there when my dad passed as he had only just got home and I was visiting that day but got the call in the morning, but I had seen him a few days before in the hospital where he had held my hand tight to his chest and told me he was dying and he wasn’t strong enough. 
I wasn’t ready to lose my dad and I certainly was not ready for the horrors of cancer. 

it has truly broken me.

I hope you find peace as I hope I do. 
I don’t know how but just doing one day at a time.
Know you are not alone I’m sure everyone that is on here probably has similar traumas too.

take care x