Dealing with bereavement

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Taken me a couple of days to write this. My father in law passed away on Friday, after a courageous battle with lung cancer. The last few weeks have been difficult, tiring and emotional. Although it was expected, and we had been told to ‘prepare ourselves’, I’m not sure I was ready or prepared for when it happened. Does anyone have any advice or support they can give to help us through the next few weeks. The pressure of being his carer may have lifted, but the heartache is unbearable right now. Thank you.

  • Hi Dandb,

    Myself and my Mam were also told this by a rather unpersonable nurse on Saturday morning when I had to get someone to advice me on increasing pain relief for her. I don't think you can prepare yourself. Even with months of anticipatory grief behind you. I have seen a big change in my mam these last days and I fear the worst is yet to come very soon. I'm scared as hell about this and trying to find something to focus on. Which so far is that it will be an end to her suffering. I'm not sure if focusing on something like that is of any help to you right now. You have my deepest sympathy. 

  • Hi I lost my Mum just 10 days ago and I was also her main carer. I feel lost without my best friend. The physical caring role may be lifted but I am struggling like yourself with how to move on. 
    I don’t think we are ever prepared to loose a loved one no matter how it happens. 
    I have no words of wisdom just words of support and know that you are not alone in the journey we are just beginning Broken heartBroken heart