Hi there.
Mum was diagnosed with breast cancer 5 years ago and had a lumpectomy. 2 years later she became poorly and it was discovered that they hadn’t removed all the cancer and it was now in her lymph nodes and her lungs. After several rounds of chemo , she wasn’t allowed any more. She wasn’t ready to die though. She became epileptic and had a fall which broke her arm. This allowed pneumonia to set in and within 2 weeks she suddenly became a shell, she was heavily sedated. I sat with her as long as I could (I have lupus), I put headphones on her and played Andrea Bochelli (her favourite). I washed her face and hands and gave her a gentle hand massage. I kissed her head and told her I love her. She passed exactly an hour after I left.
she left behind my stepdad. He is 83 with chronic COPD and cancer of his own. He has cancer on his kidneys and bowel. He is so very frail that he cannot have any treatment. He has the beginnings of dementia and refuses to leave theor home. We have carers etc in place for him but every day he rings me to ask me if I’ve seen my mum and what time she will be home. I’m having to tell him every time that she has passed away. Is upsetting for him and soul destroying for me.
He has now gone into hospital because his COPD was bad and whilst there, he has contracted covid.
I feel that the world is against me.it’s all far too much to handle. Mums brother suddenly died of a heart attack 4 days before her.
my sister has bipolar and behavioural problems, so I’m trying to help her with it all too. I’m wanna scream at the world. Why so much all at once?
I don’t want pity, I just needed to shout at someone
Hi AllieB welcome to the forum and sorry that you have not had a reply as yet. If I was you I would want to scream at the world as well, you have certainly had a challenging and difficult time, but please remember to look after yourself as well. So you have a good scream if you want to and try putting you first before anyone else, as if you sink what happens to them then, so you need to keep you well but not for others, but for you.
Why so much at once you ask? Life has a strange way of throwing things at us when we least expect it and it tests us, often to our very limits. xxxx
gail
