Sorry if it's the wrong place, just finding my way around.
Just lost my Father to lung cancer, it was a long slow battle that he could not win. My mother is currently in remission from breast and uterine cancer.
I'm just astounded how terribly I'm taking the loss, I thought I could be so matter-of-fact about it, as it was a long time coming. There were a good number of years when we barely had a relationship, fortunately I was able to salvage that a few years ago, so we rebonded. So I don't doubt there is a lot of regret in with the grief, but how do I stop bursting into tears at the slightest thing?
Thanks all for reading.
Hi, so sorry to hear that your dad passed away. I wish I could answer your last question but, to be honest, I don't know. I find myself doing the sane thing all the time because my mum died recently. I suppose it is better to let it all out instead of trying to hold back. There's nothing wrong with having a good cry! We never know how we will react to something until we are face to face with it and there's no right or wrong way to deal with it really. We do what we have to do.
I hope you have people around that can support you.
Take care
Hi Dean,
I lost my mum in March and still feel heartbroken.
If I can give you any advice it would be this.....don't stop yourself from bursting into tears....you need to cry...you need to let the emotions out.
I lost my dad 18 months before my mum was diagnosed.....I still cry when I think about him now. I'm now crying for both of them.
Time is a healer for some, it doesn't necessarily get easier....it's just that you "accept" they're not here. It's horrible and I don't believe ypu ever truly get over it....you just learn to cope.
I really hope you can talk to people about it, people who care and will listen. Don't feel bad about crying. It's completely normal.
Take care Dean.
Adele
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