Feeling angry

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My husband was diagnosed with colon cancer in December after complaining to his GP for 10 weeks that he was constipated and having abdominal pain, for them to tell him that it was IBS, he also asked them could it be cancer for them to tell him he is too young for cancer, they only seen him twice done a few blood tests that showed his white blood cells were not normal so put him on folic acid, he also passed an alarming amount of blood from his back passage 2 days before I brought him to hospital, I rang his doctors to be asked by the receptionist what colour is the blood and to be then told by the receptionist that there was nothing to worry about as the blood was bright red, Since when are receptionists doctors. According to the health and and social care Facebook you should contact your doctor asap regarding any blood being passed whatever colour. I emailed a picture of the blood that was in the toilet to his doctors and they didn't look at it, didn't contact us regarding it so I rang them the next day and was told by the receptionist That the doctor will not look at that email, I'm sorry but the GP has a lot to answer for. it was on the friday 10th of December I had to rush him to hospital with severe abdominal pain, he was given a ct scan in the early hours that showed he had diverticulitis, on the Monday he told me he felt something explode inside, his bowel had ruptured and he ended up having to get an emergency open bowel surgery, he had sepsis. He had to get a stoma bag put on as a result. Just after Christmas we were told he had stage 3 bowel cancer, he had to wait for his wound from surgery to heal before he could start chemo, in February he caught covid and had to get stents in his kidneys which postponed his chemo further, he got his first round of chemo on the 18th of March and was fine, not sick or run down, 2 weeks later he was constipated again on the 30th of March I took him to the cancer center to get checked, we were told he had a bowel obstruction and had to be on bowel rest, in April we were told that there was nothing more they could do and it was now in gods hands, my husband died on the 22nd of May at the age of 37, were together 18 years only got married in August last year and have two beautiful young heartbroken daughters. I blame his GP for Neglecting him when he needed them most, if they had of handed him a letter to go straight to the hospital to get Properly tested he would probably be here now and probably could of prolonged his life.

  • Hi Nicole, I am so sorry for the loss of your husband and all that you have had to go through. Losing a loved one is hard enough, I can't imagine how hard it must be for you when you feel that you have been let down by the people that are supposed to help. 

  • This made me so sad for you- yes my mother to kept going to the doctors and they said nothing was wrong. Something needs to change , sending hugs 

  • Nicole85,

    This is just awful. I read this two months after my wife died. I have said on another post that I also feel that the GP let us down. The early 'diagnosis' was IBS too and I fear that this is all too common. It was almost a year before the final scan was done to 'just check' and that revealed the worst.

    I can only say that you are not alone.

    Take care.

    WDJ

  • No words to describe what you are going throuh. Same story with my 24 years old son . I wish if I knew anything I would have taken him for private treatment. Don't blame yourself, there is nothing we can do. No matter what the result would not change