We held Dad's celebration of life yesterday, the service was beautiful filled with memories of his life and his pride in his 3 children and 3 grandchildren. It has brought me a strange feeling of peace, I know my grief journey isn't over. I was coping with anticipatory grief since 27th May when we found out dad's diagnosis was terminal so I don't know if thats helped.
Had anybody else felt a state of calm after the funeral?
Yes. I did too.
The funeral day was strange for me as something happened close to it starting which gave me a shot of adrenaline, and that saw me through the day too.
But it definitely helped me move on to a new stage.
Today I went with Dad to pick up Mum's ashes. He was teary but said said he will be happier "with her back home" and he looked at them when we got in. I don't know what his plans are. They were to svatter in their garden, which was her pride and joy. I think now he might keep them.
Personally, I'm staying tonight, and it also feels comforting.
I do get tears but I'm also managing to think of memories and good times and smile and be thankful for them.
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