Hi Everyone,
I am new to this group and found it by accident but really hoping somebody might have some words of wisdom. My darling mum is so close to leaving us - I would think within the next few hours. As well as having to deal with her loss I also have to contend with a very difficult family. My father died many years ago and my older sister caused a lot of problems on the day of the funeral when she found out that my mum had given me my fathers ring. This event was the beginning of many issues. Then a few years ago another very close relative of ours passed away. I was executor for this person and we had difficulty at the time of the funeral as she could not be buried in the family plot as it was full. So in order to honour her wishes, I made the decision to have her cremated in order to honour her wishes. I have never been forgiven for this and it has caused a lot of problems. Myself, husband and children are excluded from all family events. Now with my mum passing, we are again being excluded. All of the arrangements have been made, without any consultation with me and I am feeling so hurt, angry and alone. I am afraid that my anger will overshadow the grief I feel in losing my mum. Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I can handles things over the coming days?
Hi Laya26
I am sorry that this post went unanswered at a time when things looked so dark and empty, days have now passed and I hope you have managed to find you way through.
As difficult as this all is for you and your family, things have a way of being got through, often without us even knowing how we did it. I do hope this has been the same for you.
Lowe'
